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221bakerst

460d

im sick of people saying they love me and those same people do absolutely nothing in making me feel they are loving me, in a very personable way. im tired of the blanket “i love you”’s. where is the true people who love people for who they are and for what they need? loving someone in a way u feel most comfortable when it makes that other person feel neglected isn’t truly loving them for them, you’re just loving them to the conditions of your issues. so stop lying that you’re able to love them and speak the truth that you’re only available to an extent. and explain what that availability is and why. this is coming from a very autisticlly confused person with bpd. thank you.

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    • IndigoBro

      459d

      @221bakerst just because you find something easy doesn’t mean everyone will. It took me about three years to learn how to give someone who is hurting attention. Today those that are close to me describe me as some of the best support they ever had. Have you ever asked them “why do you not respond when I’m asking you for help?” What did they say?

    • Gaz

      460d

      PREACH

    • FTW

      460d

      Well, from my experience. Everyone cares, until it starts disrupting their life. Then, they leave.

    • IndigoBro

      460d

      All kinds of love are limited in their extent. Most of us aren’t aware of the limits of our own love. How we show we love someone and what makes us feel loved varies widely from person to person. Communicating to the people who say they love us the reasons we don’t feel loved by them, or the areas we feel neglected is good way to test that compatibility. Over time, we might see that they’re willing to work on it (because they love us) or they won’t/can’t (then we’ll know their true limitation) Not everyone is capable of filling our needs, even if they might want to.

      • 221bakerst

        460d

        @IndigoBro i find it way beyond easy to give someone who’s hurting attention so if it’s not being given it’s clearly a choice.

        • IndigoBro

          459d

          @221bakerst just because you find something easy doesn’t mean everyone will. It took me about three years to learn how to give someone who is hurting attention. Today those that are close to me describe me as some of the best support they ever had. Have you ever asked them “why do you not respond when I’m asking you for help?” What did they say?

      • 221bakerst

        460d

        @IndigoBro ok. bc i’ve been told by many they love me but then i reach out to them for help im not told anything and treated with a wall. it’s happened way too much now and it’s hard not settling with what i observe.

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