Coping with PTSD while living with abusers

I went ‘full NPC’ on them. Like a Non Playable Character in a video game, no one stands around to talk to the person who has two lines of dialogue on repeat and has nothing entertaining going on, they continue with the quest. My abusers liked to entertain themselves by making me dance like a monkey at a moments notice so I dealt with my reactions in private and became like an NPC. I didnt tell them anything, didnt react to shitty comments about me not accepting hugs, and just in general removing myself from the room if they pushed anything. Kept boundaries firm but didnt let it be easy for them to amplify my emotions when they said I was mean or rude. I tried to be the least interesting thing in the house. There are some people where directly talking about boundaries can be really helpful but not everyone is like that and doesnt deserve the chance to ‘change’ by hearing your honesty as some will use it against you. I had to understand them disrespecting me and guilt tripping was on their character and I was not at all obligated to craddle my abusers feelings because thats what they want. Abusers can be cry babies all they want but they can cry away from me. And when an abuser sees they cant entertain themselves with you they will likely dismiss you as the first option. It sucks doing this but its how I escaped. In your private time, invest in your mental health. Hide journals and keep locks in apps in phones. I wish you the best. You deserve better.

I mean not to sound harsh but if they take boundaries personally and are hurt by that, that’s on them. You aren’t responsible for their emotions. They are the adults who didn’t keep you safe like they were supposed to so now you have to do what you need to in order to be safe now. I would start small like you’ve been doing and hold your ground no matter how they try to guilt you. You deserve to be safe. You deserve to heal and yes ideally you would be living somewhere else but you can do what you can now.

i have attempted setting a few boundaries with little success. they try to be understanding but i can tell it hurts them emotionally and they take it personally. i tried telling my mom i’m not comfortable with her hugging and touching me all the time and tried to ask her to ask before she does but she just started crying. she tries not to but she’ll forget and then get scared or act like ill explode at any second. i feel bad but at the same time it’s hard to get better when everyone’s always yelling or touchy and don’t understand why i get messed up ab it

Is there a way to set boundaries that you can make a safe space for yourself? So you don’t have to interact with them very much? Or have somewhere to get away from them?