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Does anyone feel like they always need to justify themselves so people don’t get upset with you or judge you? For example I wanna be like “I’m so sorry I did xyz I’m so adhd 🤪” and I know I shouldn’t need to justify myself but I’m so used to people getting frustrated with me I feel like I need to give a disclaimer. And then people close to me are like “stop bragging about your adhd” or “stop using it as a crutch” (I’ve even had other adhd people say this to me). Idk I just feel really guilty for the things I can’t help and I wanna prevent people from calling me out about what I can’t control before it happens (I’ve always been called out for adhd things my entire life, so I’m not just paranoid). What’s your experience with this and how do you deal with it?

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    • Itsjustcali

      779d

      The hardest part to me is masking. I have to create a character to fit into whatever narrative is happening and whenever I step out of it it’s immediate anxiety and disclaimers. It’s so difficult not to do this honestly.

    • Itsjustcali

      779d

      The hardest part to me is masking. I have to create a character to fit into whatever narrative is happening and whenever I step out of it it’s immediate anxiety and disclaimers. It’s so difficult not to do this honestly.

    • Chaotic_nobody

      780d

      ADHD has often made communication really hard. I spent years not talking to people and then this one girl like actually would talk to me and try to help me keep track of the conversation and not whateve else I'm doing. She was so nice and mad it easy to finally talk to talk about the noise in my head.

    • MKatt

      781d

      Oh goodness, all. The. Time. Especially since I started this Spanish class, I keep getting upset with myself bc I end up barely doing anything for the assignments no matter how hard I try. Even though most of my friends understand my struggles, my mom is constantly on me about things like that, which causes me to be hard on myself. I'm still learning the best way to deal with this, but you are definitely not alone in this😭💞

    • Sunshineseeker90

      781d

      That is one of the hardest things about ADHD. The inability to prevent people from being frustrated or disappointed with you. And your best never being good enough. Because sometime we succeed and sometimes we drop the ball, its inconsitent, people think "I know you are capable just do it". 😐 And because I have faced this criticism my whole life, I am extremely sensitive and triggered by it, which leads people to say, "don't be so sensitive". And there's the beautiful cycle of a life woth ADHD. 😅😄😥💕🙌🙏🤗 I'm sorry that wasn't encouraging. But hopefully the fact that that resonates with others and you are not alone can provide some comfort in your journey.❤️

    • BergamotBoi

      781d

      literally always!!! even since i was young and didnt know i felt the deep need to overexplain why i act the way i do

    • xoxogossipgirl

      781d

      ikkkkk in school i feel like i get scared teachers r gonna thing i’m just making excuses at this point and idk what to do bc i can’t function like everyone else

    • ___

      781d

      In my experience, my mom is always mad at me for adhd things that I do and sometimes I’ve tried to explain that my brain literally doesn’t work like that and I couldn’t do what I was supposed to do, but she always says that I’m just making excuses. So it really doesn’t work for me to talk about ADHD to her. Because of that, it’s hard for me to talk to other people in my life about how ADHD effects me.

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