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Emily55

659d

Hello I’m doubting my diagnosis for CPTSD. I was wondering if these things are “enough” to have it. - parents divorce when I was a young kid -dad told me how he tried to off himself when I was sixteen -toxic controlling/isolated relationship when I was 15-16 I couldn’t talk to anyone or wear certain stuff and he called me names like a whore etc and screamed at me. -unpredictable mom , she didn’t believe my mental illness. She slapped me once when I was a kid . She drank and drove with me in the car and smoked cigarettes in the house. -my dad was out and in my life he basically choose his wife over us even though the wife told me I’m never going to make it in life because of my anxiety this happened when I was like 16-17 years old.

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    • MeeB333

      12d

      @MeeB333 I’d just like to add that having any form of PTSD doesn’t mean that we are in any way less than or defective, either. Although our brains go into overdrive in response to the stresses of trauma, they are actually doing their best to protect us from danger. Some of the very toughest people in this world are susceptible, as soldiers of war, so we should actually view ourselves as extremely strong, since even the most rugged and resilient of individuals among us can experience these very same symptoms of PTSD. Even though we may not have fought in any war/physical battles, we dealt with things psychologically traumatizing in the best way that our brains knew how to, and they are so smart to want to try to protect us from further damage and danger. Give yourself some credit for making it through the trauma, & thank your brain for trying to protect you. We deserve kindness, compassion, & consideration. Know that you are strong to have survived, & that PTSD is actually a very normal reaction to extreme stressors. Our psyches experienced things that could have broken or killed someone else. It is amazingly miraculous we were able to persevere, despite what we went through, & we should give ourselves credit for surviving relatively intact. Admitting we have been traumatized does not make us “weak.” It takes strength to see the truth, and seeking help takes bravery & courage.

    • MeeB333

      12d

      C-PTSD stands for Complex-PTSD. I have Chronic Complex-PTSD. The “Complex” part comes from my many multiple experiences of separate incidents of trauma and abuse throughout my life. The “Chronic” part is because my C-PTSD is longterm/lifelong, since the complexity of so many layers of unaddressed & unresolved trauma & abuse one after another have caused a chronic condition that is persistent & long-lasting. Your diagnosis of Complex-PTSD stems from the fact that you have (listed) several different traumatic incidents that you have experienced over time, &, while any one of your experiences could cause PTSD in a person, the cumulative effect of having multiple traumatic experiences causing PTSD is C-PTSD. = It is a stress-related mental health disorder generally occurring in response to complex traumas; commonly prolonged or repetitive exposures to a series of traumatic events, within which individuals perceive little or no chance to escape. Also, C-PTSD is a category of post-traumatic stress disorder with three additional clusters of significant distinct symptoms: emotional dysregulations, negative self-beliefs, and interpersonal difficulties. Do not let anyone tell you that there is somehow an imaginary threshold of how much or how bad one’s trauma must be to qualify as “enough” for this diagnosis. We are all different & have had different lived experiences in life, and, therefore, we all experience things in ways personal & particular to us. Being deeply negatively impacted by trauma & abuse does not make you “weak.” As a matter of fact, it takes a very strong person to live through such negative experiences and circumstances. It takes an even stronger person to admit, talk about, & work on dealing with the aftermath. So, please, consider yourself to be one of the strong ones who survived to address your many issues. And, don’t doubt yourself. While I don’t always implicitly trust the opinion of any professional because they only know what they are taught, and, as a fallible human, they can, indeed, be wrong about things, I do trust that the professional you spoke with came to the correct conclusion with your diagnosis because you definitely fit the bill & qualify with your experiences and their resulting symptoms. The doubt you are feeling now is actually quite typical of C-PTSD, as it just another negative self-belief attempting to invalidate you & your experiences. The professional who gave you this diagnosis undoubtedly recognized that these incidents caused negative impacts & correlating symptoms that have disrupted your life significantly enough to warrant a diagnosis, & you should trust that, as your dismissal would only serve to prolong your suffering & stifle your truth. Trust yourself, and try to treat yourself the way you wish someone had treated that wounded child, with love, patience, compassion & kindness. You deserve to heal & grow from all of this, & I hope you will afford yourself the grace & space to do so by allowing yourself to have the forgiveness, trust, & honesty you need. :)

      • MeeB333

        12d

        @MeeB333 I’d just like to add that having any form of PTSD doesn’t mean that we are in any way less than or defective, either. Although our brains go into overdrive in response to the stresses of trauma, they are actually doing their best to protect us from danger. Some of the very toughest people in this world are susceptible, as soldiers of war, so we should actually view ourselves as extremely strong, since even the most rugged and resilient of individuals among us can experience these very same symptoms of PTSD. Even though we may not have fought in any war/physical battles, we dealt with things psychologically traumatizing in the best way that our brains knew how to, and they are so smart to want to try to protect us from further damage and danger. Give yourself some credit for making it through the trauma, & thank your brain for trying to protect you. We deserve kindness, compassion, & consideration. Know that you are strong to have survived, & that PTSD is actually a very normal reaction to extreme stressors. Our psyches experienced things that could have broken or killed someone else. It is amazingly miraculous we were able to persevere, despite what we went through, & we should give ourselves credit for surviving relatively intact. Admitting we have been traumatized does not make us “weak.” It takes strength to see the truth, and seeking help takes bravery & courage.

    • AnimalBoy

      652d

      All of these things could be considered traumatic, but it can vary from person to person. For example I never suffered any mental health issues from my parents divorce, it is a common stressor or trauma point even for people who were as young as I was because of the situational changes and such to the point that I was suggested that being part of my depression and anxiety but there's never been a point I felt negatively impacted by that. Generally CPTSD is caused by prolonged exposure to trauma/stress and can occur more easily in those who already have other trauma related disorders from a different traumatic event, so the more that happens the more likely it is for you to develope CPTSD.

    • allie.a

      653d

      i have been through a lot less and my therapist still suggested i have CPTSD. i can definitely relate to questioning whether it’s real, especially when my parents gaslighted me into thinking that my childhood was great

    • HaltheWitch

      659d

      Never doubt your trauma just because it's different from others. Unfortunately a lot of people like to gate keep mental illness but don't listen to them. You are valid and your pain/trauma is valid.

    • MaeStanton

      659d

      Trauma varies among people but you definitely fit it, you might be doubting it because you are working through it, but ptsd will never go away fully, it just becomes less of a hassle as I see mine in life

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