Dealing with Stressful Morning Conversations with My Partner

It's ok to have needs but it sounds like you're ALREADY in stress and burnout so something needs to change. It sounds like you may need to apologize to your SO. You can't be in a relationship and still jump down their throat just because they spoke to you... MY husband and I have also had similar fights with each of us being the one in the wrong at different times. It may be you need to get up early enough to have quiet time before dealing with your SO or you may need to quit coffee so your not angry in that early morning caffeine withdrawal.

It sounds to me like the stress and burnout from whatever else is going on in your life is probably what led to this new stressor. It’s perfectly okay to have random spurts of needs, but how you communicate these needs and identifying where they came from is important. I would communicate to your SO that the outbursts are likely connected to whatever else is going on in your life. Putting a pause on the morning calls might be a temporary fix but real change won’t happen unless you find additional ways to give yourself rest or stress relief. Whatever’s going on in your life I hope you’re able to stay strong ❤️ know that you’re loved and deserving of any rest you need to take