Lonelyturtle

189d

I finally tested to get tested for ADHD but one of the questionnaires requires you to take it home and have a parent fill it out to talk about your childhood adhd symptoms. My parents don’t believe in adhd LOL, any advice on what I can do? I was thinking about asking them to take the questionnaire but if they don’t believe in it.. they are probably going to be very biased. Not sure what to do.

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  • Lonelyturtle

    189d

    *decided

  • crown_dwarf

    189d

    How are you getting tested? Do your parents know?

    • Lonelyturtle

      187d

      at my healthcare system, it’s a multiple step process and the first step is taking a packet home and having it filled out by yourself, one part is filled out by a parent( someone who knew you as a child) and one part is filled out by a close friend or family member. Then, if you meet criteria for adhd they bring you in for an evaluation with the psychiatrist.

      • crown_dwarf

        186d

        could you ask an aunt or something? Or family friend?

  • Jazzie1

    189d

    Do you have any old report cards or feedback from teachers as a kid? I’d hand those in. I’d let them know that they are biased. I might also ask if another family member could fill it out?

    • Lonelyturtle

      187d

      yeah I do but most of them would probably show that I didn’t have it lol because I’m a girl and pretty sure I have the inattentive type so you wouldn’t really have seen it. I’ve also always been a pretty good student because my parents were really strict about my grades and I also have a lot of anxiety so I always made sure to get things done even though I would procrastinate on everything lol.

      • Jazzie1

        187d

        well inattentive still shows; inattentive doesn’t mean invisible. Also it sounds like a lot of assumptions are being made without looking - might be a good time to check them if you have them…

      • Soskae

        169d

        girls usually present as being really good students. They, myself included, did really well on tests and when I was engaged specifically by the teacher but I never did homework and often talked in class. Your doctor will most likely be aware of this so seeing you were a good student may actually be a larger indication of ADHD. I think you can’t tell a doctor too much. They will always disregard any information they don’t see as relevant but you don’t know if something that may seem totally unrelated to you is actually another symptom.

  • Oboeplaya94

    189d

    Had a similar problem, and my doctor was kind enough to understand since its unfortunately a common bias/fear parents have of documented mental illness (and the meds aspect I guess)

    • Lonelyturtle

      187d

      ya I think I’m going to have to research out to the department and explain the situation.

      • Oboeplaya94

        169d

        give Marlina Robinson at Reliant Physicians a call!! For anyone that’s looking for a compassionate and patient doctor. It’s a bit of a wait every time but so worth it. She’s been the only doctor to not judge me whatsoever and knows about my parents concerns and handles it so well.

  • Fauna

    188d

    Fortunately, I had a parent who was supportive of my medicine, but I had another who hated the idea of me being medicated. Because of them, I have a really messy and convoluted history with different medicines (or lack of medicine). It's really difficult when you rely on a parent who really just can't seem to get it. Maybe you have a therapist or similar resource you can reach out to to help mediate, because it is so helpful to have even one parent on board. Wishing you the best! ❤️

  • Heaven197987

    187d

    All them the questions without them knowing why tell them afterwards this why they are more honest in their answers

  • Saint_Julian

    187d

    Does it have to be a parent that fills it out? I just had to have someone who knew me very well (so I had my sister fill it out). If this is the case, do you have any siblings or very close friends/family friends that could do it?

  • Soskae

    169d

    I personally am going through a similar thing right now. What I’m doing is basically only telling my parents what they need to know. I said something along the lines of “we’re trying to figure out what’s going on so please answer honestly.” So they aren’t intentionally answering against the conditions I think I have. I’m still in the process of it so idk if that’s the best advice but that’s what I’m doing.

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