As a perfectionist I struggle to prioritize, and I often find myself so upset for not completing important tasks. The problem is everything feels important in the moment. To do lists are the death of me because they get so long and I can’t stop adding to them. I constantly expect myself to do more than I can. I have no idea how long it takes me to do things, or how long it should take (because they’re never perfect I can spend hours). Everything feels important so whatever I don’t end up doing feels like failure on my part. How do you learn to prioritize?

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • YanyLaurel


    I'm so sorry, that's rough. I know what it's like! I have heard something that helps a lot is writing down the consequences of not doing the thing, whatever it is. The ones with bigger and dinner consequences are a higher priority

  • Alarata


    This is like my ADHD brain to a T, felt!

  • Akemi


    I feel this on a deep personal level. The best way I've found to do it is to separate the list. I'm not sure how in depth you go but start with "imperative" tasks. Feeding yourself (and pets or plants if you have them) showering and things like that that you do every day. Then "important" tasks. Taking out trash, cleaning your dishes and washing laundry. Stuff that doesn't need done necessary every day but you need kept up with. Next "in depth" list. Stuff that you know needs done but could live with waiting to do such as dusting or vacuuming. Last make yourself a "support" list. This list i use to backup my mental health. Scheduling time for a small snack when you've done another task. Text someone you miss. Play 30 minutes of a game or social media. Whatever you do to calm yourself and brings you joy. Sorry it's a bit long but I really hope this helps out at least a little.

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