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Feeling Stuck in a Depressive Rut

aries02

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I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been stuck in a depressive rut for years. There’s been bouts of hypomania but other than that I’m always miserable and I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried everything- meds, diet and exercise, self help books, journaling, gratitude and affirmations, etc. etc. I’m on lamictal now and I would say it’s lessened the severity of my depression but it’s still always there. All I want to do all day is sleep. I haven’t gone to work all week and even when I went I didn’t actually do anything. I just want to feel normal again. I haven’t felt like myself in so long and I’m so desperate. What can I do at this point?

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    • aries02

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      @Kay2002 Thanks! Over the past year or so I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to stop relying on other people for happiness and find it on my own. I think I’m very codependent, I’ve been a serial dater since middle school 😅 and haven’t really been single until sophomore year of college. When things ended with my first serious relationship I realized that always having a boyfriend let me ignore my problems and depend on others for so long that my entire life fell apart when we broke up. I think therapy would be a good option but I’ve had such bad luck in the past that finding a therapist and going through the trial and error process is so overwhelming that I’ve been putting it off and I really don’t even know how to go about finding one

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    • Kay2002

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      love to hear that 💕 I generally had to turn to my husband when I needed to vent a lot, because all of my friend group left me within the span of a month. Still struggling to find a not toxic friend group but I've learned to appreciate myself and not rely on people from it 🥲

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    • Kay2002

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      https://discord.gg Here's a discord server I'm in made by someone else on Alike. It's a emotional support group 😊

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      • Kay2002

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        @Kay2002 I also feel like I need to mention, I know that feeling you're having. I started having that feeling at 12 and it kept getting worse until there was finally some progress happening around 1-2 years ago. I think what made me start taking care of myself and wanting to enjoy life again, even when I wasn't motivated, was finding my now husband. Even if you don't want to date anyone, it's always nice to have a friend to confide in, or even a therapist if you want.

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        • aries02

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          @Kay2002 Thanks! Over the past year or so I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to stop relying on other people for happiness and find it on my own. I think I’m very codependent, I’ve been a serial dater since middle school 😅 and haven’t really been single until sophomore year of college. When things ended with my first serious relationship I realized that always having a boyfriend let me ignore my problems and depend on others for so long that my entire life fell apart when we broke up. I think therapy would be a good option but I’ve had such bad luck in the past that finding a therapist and going through the trial and error process is so overwhelming that I’ve been putting it off and I really don’t even know how to go about finding one

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        • 4byfour

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          @Kay2002 👍 my boyfriend has helped a ton too. It’s all mental progress I was making before I met him, but he makes it feel so much more rewarding. He’s a champion for every little accomplishment

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    • Ladoo

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      Have you tried therapy/ group therapy/ support groups? I'm in group therapy and honestly it's kinda helpful. It doesn't get rid of my OCD and anxiety but it definitely makes it manageable. Hearing other people's worries and seeing a group of people all in the same boat of recovery really made me feel like I wasn't alone.

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      • aries02

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        @Ladoo i have tried therapy in the past and didn’t have much luck with the therapists themselves as it was pretty obvious that all they cared about was getting paid at the end of the session. I know finding a good therapist takes some trial and error, though. So I’d like to try it again because I know medication can only do so much and the most effective treatment is a combination. But finding a therapist seems so overwhelming and even though I want to do it I just never get around to it.

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