Struggling with Boundaries: Tips Needed

@ImagoofygooberYEAH Whoever doesn’t accept a simple answer doesn’t respect your needs. It depends who asking tho. If it’s a very close friend they would expect me to explain why I’m saying this. The difference is that whatever I say, even if it sounds stupid to them, they should accept it and respect my decision. They could give you advice but not tell you how to feel or think. If you feel fear then these people aren’t friends. Friends make you feel comfortable, heard, respected, and understood. Don’t undermine your feelings by saying I feel foolish. They’re your feelings and you’re feeling them for a reason. Maybe you had a more difficult past or a different upbringing. They should respect your history. If you feel like they’re controlling you then maybe they are, it feels like indirect bullying . Also, if time passes it doesn’t affect your decision it doesn’t make you foolish. You can always say: ‘actually I thought about it and I realized that I’m not comfortable with this arrangement’ or something along those lines. We’re human and we have feelings and we can always change our minds.