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Polistinae

685d

I found a boundary-setting account/workshop that looked really nice and helpful and gave me some good information but I checked the bio and it said it was strictly for women and it made me feel so gross. my people pleasing behaviors make me feel so womanly and even have me doubt my transness bc i feel like i can’t trust myself to know for sure. if i really had a male brain i wouldn’t struggle with these things. How can i feel better as a trans male with such feminine issues?

    • AnimalBoy

      634d

      People pleasing and the ways they present come from how you were raised not what your gender is so it cannot be a sign that your actually a woman, any doubt about that is just the dysphoria talking. Honestly there's quite literally no reason that that type of self help thing should be gender segregated and it's one of my biggest pet peeves. Why shouldn't the men who have these issues be allowed to have help for them or find something helpful? I'd get it if it was women only interaction to make a space for women, but some helpful words online don't need segregation for who can and can't read them and find them helpful. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

    • Kendoll

      685d

      A lot of intrapersonal social issues women have has to do with the way they are brought up. You were brought up with people expecting you to grow into a woman, and its nearly impossible not to have some of that pushed on you as a kid. The expectations of being quiet, having no opinions, having no boundaries, people pleasing… its stuff adults tend to teach young girls. It doesnt make you any less of a man and it doesnt mean your brain is any less male. None of it was in your control.

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