I’m punishing myself with my relationship. I have someone who I’m waiting on to change into the man I want him to be, but as I wait patiently for change I’m being broken down. I stay because I feel it’s what I deserve. I have the option to leave and be with someone who knows me super well and understands me without me even having to speak what I feel and he’s been patiently waiting for me and still loves me even though I choose to stay in this relationship where there may be no change. How am I going to get the guts to stand up for my inner child instead of punishing myself by being with someone I know isn’t good for me?
If he’s 25 years old, his brain is finished developing. Which means he will be a fundamentally impossible human being to change from that point forward. His personality will be set in stone. Hope that helped. Additionally, aside from what I’ve just stated, if you are destroying yourself self, soul, body, and mind, to change a human being who is not taking your efforts seriously or into true consideration, then maybe this man is not the best fit for you? Just think about it.
he’s 20, he reminds me that he knows he isn’t good for me and he doesn’t want to lose me, my friends and family are convinced he’s mentally abusing me and manipulating me. Something inside of me wants to cling on and hope for change and prove everyone wrong even at the expense of my heart and own suffering
I believe only your heart knows the true answer then. Are you sure he’s hurting you? Do you feel hurt? Or would you rather believe you’re allowing him to hurt you? It seems as if you’re having trouble choosing between believing the truth and the opinions of others. Are you sure you can separate these two very different concepts?
Unfortunately as my dad always put it getting into a relationship because you hope to change someone into what you want or need it's always a horrible idea and usually ends in emotional trauma for the both people involved. I've been in your shoes and there's a lot of crying and pain involved when you do choose to finally leave, but the amount of relief I felt once I left was wonderful! It's a good idea to get as much support as you can from friends, family a therapist etc. But at the end of the day you have to make the choice and walk away
I didn’t start dating him to change him, I feel like i didn’t see his true colors till it was a little late in the relationship and I feel a bit trapped by my own brain
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I’m punishing myself with my relationship. I have someone who I’m waiting on to change into the man I want him to be, but as I wait patiently for change I’m being broken down. I stay because I feel it’s what I deserve. I have the option to leave and be with someone who knows me super well and understands me without me even having to speak what I feel and he’s been patiently waiting for me and still loves me even though I choose to stay in this relationship where there may be no change. How am I going to get the guts to stand up for my inner child instead of punishing myself by being with someone I know isn’t good for me?
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