I just found out my attacker died this past week. I had previously been doing really good but now feelings of sexual guilt and shame have started happening again. Could the news of his death just set me back from all the progress I’ve made?
Maybe it's possible but try not to let it get to you and if you have to do it all over again everyone may or may not understand but just know if you need to talk you could talk to me. It may take time to take it all in that he's, dead but take your time and just breath and take days to yourself. just try your best and it's all going to be ok❤️
In years after the incident I seen mine in Walmart . I stopped . I immediately turned the other direction I was so afraid he was going to come up to me and pretend like nothing happened. Which has happened with another person in my past . But this man went off the radar and all of the sudden he pops up . You can imagine my feelings like you described . But listen . Forgive them that's the first step . Then get symbolic maybe write a letter or note etc then set it on fire . Then do some happy guilt . Eatting a slice cake for example . . Find your peace . Let your peace eat you alive knowing tomorrow can be a brighter day and if it isn't repeat. Repeat that till you feel the release. Pondering is the worse enemy we have . ✌️
you’re the second person to suggest forgiving him. That just seems so completely out of reach for me to do. I can’t even fathom forgiving him. I’m not saying I won’t try, I just can’t figure out where to start
that whole walmart thing is one of my biggest fears!!! So I don't go to Walmart. No one else would ever truly understand this about me. I'm so glad I found this app!!!!
I know it's hard .. it took years to forgive my dad for all the crap he put me and my family threw all those years when I was younger I even begged God to take his life because I thought it be easier without him . That's pretty bad ! . But the older I got I realized he just is another human being dealing with a mental illness and now my mom kicked him out after he did things to me and he is living in a apartment by himself . I still talk on the phone with him cause he is my dad and I forgave him I just keep my distance from him and I definitely will never let him in my place ! .
You can forgive and put him out of your life to . He isn't relevant in your life no more . You have to move forward . ❤️
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