LeOo0o

280d

ok so my partner esther is keeping secrets from me a lot and it’s making me feel worse and worse about myself. does anybody have any tips to keep from pushing myself over the edge?

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  • lindywoo

    280d

    leave them their name is esther

  • lindywoo

    280d

    but on a serious note if you really love them try to talk to them abt it and sit them down and have a serious convo. i am suffering from depression also, and when situations happen like this i like to get them to understand what’s it’s like in my position and tell them abt how my depression can make things worse when bringing up secrets.

  • Irae

    280d

    If they’re aware of your depression, they may be hiding their one problems/thoughts in fear of triggering you. My advice is open communication: let them know that the secrets are having an adverse effect on you and, if they are keeping secrets because of your depression, talk about potential solutions. As someone with depression, actually letting my partner know when I’m not going well and can’t handle any more mental strains is hard for me, so instead we made up a system where I’d wear something (a certain bracelet, necklace, whatever works for you) in order to silently let them know that I’m not in the right mindset to handle someone else’s emotions/troubles.

  • Cuno

    279d

    Hey! I know it is easier said than done but I recommend you talk to them and be honest about how it makes you feel. Try to figure out and understand why they are keeping secrets. Work with your partner to find possible alternatives to secret keeping. You and your partner should be working together to make the relationship healthy! And secret keeping, regardless of good intention is not a sign of healthy communication.

  • malks

    279d

    Talk to them I made the mistake of not doing that with my now ex husband and it got worse now I'm 24 and single talk to her

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