How do I stop being so selfish in my relationship?

@Appleicous to say this was insensitive and cold is an understatement. If you don’t have anything helpful or encouraging, then stay silent. It sounds like you are projecting, and that is something you should work on within yourself, not force onto someone else. @phaed In regard to your situation, firstly, I can’t imagine exactly how you feel, but I have an Idea based on my own experiences with my, now, husband. I eventually wrote down everything i want to tell him and poured it all out. I told him that I felt I was too much and that he deserved someone that was normal and okay and not me. I told him I was scared because I’d never be what normal girls were and I was afraid he would eventually burn out on me. I explained that I was very trusting on him and that usually allowed me to feel safe enough to let my walls down, which could go good or bad. And lastly, I apologized for being who I was. He looked at me and said that he loved all sides of me and had no issues with helping me take care of myself. He didn’t look at me as a burden or a mess of a person, but rather, a person going through things that benefited from someone who cared. He was happy to be that for me. And I haven’t looked back. I promise, being open is a great place to start and go from there. If he’s as great as you’re saying, he’ll validate your feelings and you’ll still feel safe. 💙

@Appleicous i do want him. if i didn’t i wouldn’t have asked for advice.