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Boyfriend's Reaction to My Gun Safety Concerns

StrawberryMilk

654d

I told my boyfriend i was worried about him getting a gun because i worry i might use it on myself. Then he got upset and frustrated at me telling me im selfish and that im going to hell if i k*ll myself. and he asked if hes not enough for me to live. He said i should feel sad and cry, and i did. But i kept asking him to just be loving because i was having enough of the negative reaction when all i needed was reassurance and encouragement. 1. it was just an anxious worry of mine. 2. Just some loving words would have sufficed to reassure me. Like…. expressing him my worries and emotions just makes me feel so much worse. He gives the opposite reaction i need. But he did apologize and showed remorse after i repeatedly said he wasnt being helpful in encoueaging me to change my anxious mindset (as if making me feel bad would make me less anxious anyway). So…. yep.

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    • Cloudlight

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      @wise OP mentioned that it was more an anxious thought, so it could also be intrusive or obsessive thoughts. I used to struggle a lot with being near power tools, standing fans, ect. bc I had intrusive thoughts about shoving my hand in. I avoided those things, not because I was genuinely concerned that I would hurt myself, but because the intrusive thoughts were often followed by the anxious "what if" of overthinking possible scenarios. I'm definitely not trying to invalidate your concern since it is definitely founded! I just wanted to share another perspective that may be applicable!

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    • wise

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      I'm glad you got out of there but if just having a gun in the house makes you a danger to yourself, you may need some inpatient treatment. that's a SERIOUS red flag and you deserve to be examined and given EFFECTIVE treatment so you aren't living on the verge of attempting at any point in your life

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      • Cloudlight

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        @wise OP mentioned that it was more an anxious thought, so it could also be intrusive or obsessive thoughts. I used to struggle a lot with being near power tools, standing fans, ect. bc I had intrusive thoughts about shoving my hand in. I avoided those things, not because I was genuinely concerned that I would hurt myself, but because the intrusive thoughts were often followed by the anxious "what if" of overthinking possible scenarios. I'm definitely not trying to invalidate your concern since it is definitely founded! I just wanted to share another perspective that may be applicable!

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    • chihiro.sen

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      he doesn't seem to be equipped for a partner dealing with mental illness. Maybe you two can have a talk about understanding your anxiety better and how to cope with these sort of things. There's a lot of resources online about it. The fact he apologized is a good sign, hopefully that means if you give him the tools he will use them and strengthen the relationship

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    • Bridgette

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      Wow that's a huge red flag. Hope u get out of that relationship.😥

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      • StrawberryMilk

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        @Bridgette i did recently 😌

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        • Chirp

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          @StrawberryMilk awesome! I hope (in a good way) your next partner is / has experience with being mentally ill. That kind of understanding and empathy can't be replaced. But no matter how caring a partner is, nothing is better for your wellness than prioritizing yourself and GTFOing a place where you are put in triggering situations

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        • Sunshineseeker90

          645d

          @StrawberryMilk Congratulations for dumping his butt! Point one for self care and mental health! 😊

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    • Arbor555

      654d

      It should never be blamed on you, he’s flawed. Everyone thinks they can provide a tether to a depressed person, but guilting them into it doesn’t make them better or safer. I think a gun around the house wouldn’t be healthy because it does provide that chance, which he doesn’t respect. I know I wouldn’t trust myself with that chance, no matter the person.

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    • DuckyLove

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      My feoncé does the same thing but instead of apologizing to me his parents back him up

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