Struggling with Insulting Others Unintentionally

this is going to sound genuinely awful but, watch what “nice” people do and then pretend small talk is a game where you win by being likable. definitely keeps you focused on acting right

I've encountered this.. I just stopped saying things right away. Think about what you're about to say, is it positive for the person or going to cause commotion.

Same with me… I feel so guilty yet never apologize because it gives me no self esteem