Sayre

161d

I’m having trouble with my mother. She refuse’s to understand my PTSD will not stop triggering behavior and is playing a victim with me as the abuser when I tell her there is a problem. Has anyone experienced this type of behavior? Is there anything that can be done/helped?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Generalized pain

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  • Ally79

    161d

    My mom doesn't understand what I went through none of my family does because they were not there it's not their fault but they don't know what I need as far as help and my mom was raised by her mom saying have a problem take your meds but it is hard to take something nobody will give you

    • Sayre

      161d

      How do you deal with the isolation?

  • Ally79

    160d

    I just take it day by day and I also do diamond painting and I also use the app called happy color it helps me relax

  • Candis

    157d

    I come from a narcissistic and abusive upbringing I am suffering greatly as an adult due to my 'mothers' abuse.shes chose to lie manipulate and ignore me as much as iv tryed a lifetime to fix what I did not break

    • Sayre

      157d

      I believe my mother is narcissistic too I’ve been trying to create a safe distance but there doesn’t seem to be one no matter what I say or do I can talk about the weather forecast and she’ll tell me I’m trying to ruin her day

      • Candis

        156d

        mine done even speak to me.like a coward...she hides bc she knows I know the truth....she spreads lies and manipulates,cheats,steals , abusive to everyone that crosses her path she pays for nothing and does harm to all. The pain and emptiness I feel everyday coupled with flashbacks and triggers is more pain than I can stand.....it's to that point now.im scared and do not know how to fix it....I'm sorry for your troubles as well....I know how bad you must be hurting

  • Heidi_M

    156d

    Unfortunately sometimes there is nothing that we can do. It’s a very uncomfortable place to be. The only thing you can do is Control yourself. Sometimes ignoring behavior is the best option. No one can control what you do but you. The upside to this, is that once people see that their behavior doesn’t trigger you, it will eventually stop. My mom does the same thing. Are used to feel very trapped in her words. Today, if I don’t like her behavior, I just walk away. In this way, I am not adding gasoline to the fire. And I always try to keep in mind that it is not my problem! It’s hers.

    • Sayre

      156d

      I am working towards being emotionally distant with her but it’s a process and I still find it hard to comprehend what she really is a narcissist

      • Heidi_M

        156d

        I agree. Give yourself some grace and understanding to realize that this is about progress not perfection. It doesn’t happen overnight. Take space when you need it, and hold true to your boundaries. It shows that you respect your self and your loved ones.

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