If someone asks for help, I'll help them in a heartbeat, but why can't ppl help me like I do them. I'm there for everyone and in my time of crisis, I get jack. why does no one like me.
I think a lot of it comes down to most people don't actually know how to "be there" for other people in times of crisis, at least personally, I find it easier to because I struggle with mental health, I know what can help. Neurotypicals tend to avoid these hard situations, I don't know your situation obviously, but I'm sure it's not because nobody likes you! If you need any support my dms are open š
I have heard of this so much from people I care about or just people I talk to. Trying to find spaces to help with issues definitely helped me personally when I have faced this.
I know I get it I'm there ready to sacrifice it all for my friends and they won't do the same to me. I realized not to depend on other people since my problems aren't their problems so this is why I don't tell anyone anything. The only people who I rely on to help is my family that's it not even my bestest friends. Maybe try to reach out to your family I'm sure they'd help you really since family comes first.
I can really relate. As Iāve been in therapy, Iāve realized that it has more to do with me than with the people around me, though. My therapist pointed out to me a while ago that I have some dependent/codependent traits, which was hard to accept, but it has been really insightful. I realized that Iām actually giving TOO MUCH of myself. I have a hard time saying no, I let my sister emotionally dump on me, I make huge efforts to help people, etc. and feel frustrated when I donāt receive it in return. Iāve come to see that for me, it can go as far as kind of relying on others to meet all of my emotional needs or āsaveā me in a sense. Anyway, something Iāve been working on lately is being aware of my codependent traits, setting boundaries, and putting in only as much effort as I receive from other people. I still help, but without sacrificing myself and my well-being for others because it is a heavy burden to carry other peopleās struggles on top of my own. It can be hard to adjust, especially as I watch my sister struggle and I just want to swoop in and fix everything, but I know it is what is best for me and my mental health, and probably also best for her in her particular situation. It can feel selfish, but I promise it isnāt. We are not meant to give our all in relationships. Ideally, they should be equally yoked.
same. Itās actually been really nice, surprisingly. I started to realize all my friends were āclientsā as opposed to friends, and I realized why a lot of people didnāt want to be friends with me.
Itās really helped me figure out whoās a good friend and who isnāt, too. I donāt even have to figure it out, itās just there. Maybe if I share something about myself they switch the subject, so when they talk about themselves I keep it surface level/superficial. Maybe they contribute to the conversation really intently instead and Iāll build on that conversation with them š¤·āāļø
Iāve learned itās not about my worth. Sometimes people just donāt have the room for another person in their lives at that moment, or are close minded about who they wanna get along with.
It does hurt a lot, though, when I give so much and someone doesnāt value it, because my attention is worth a lot. Itās hard to watch people take so so so much with no remorse for it.
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