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God. My family hates me, it’s crystal clear. They hate me because I’m not “following the right path” like my little brother is. He’s gotten accepted into college, and I’m not in college. I don’t have a job either. I understand that I’m maybe not in the spot most people my age are, but I have legitimate issues that prevent me from doing things. My dad has never, NEVER cared about me. He was always there for my brother once he was born but I couldn’t matter less to him. I’ve reached the end of my line. Birthday season is also coming up and my birthday already sucks. I’m being forced to go to my aunts house for my birthday since my grandmas birthday is the day after mine. To elaborate on why it’s terrible, they constantly judge me and my aunt has two cats. I’m SEVERELY allergic to cats. But does that matter? Absolutely not. I was never even asked what I wanted for my birthday dinner or my dessert. My grandma chose what she wants and I don’t get a say in anything for my own birthday. They’re coming down to my house for my brothers birthday- and they NEVER come down here. Literally never. I get that my brother is the favorite but you don’t have to rub it in my face so aggressively. To say I’m mad is an understatement. I’m FUMING. I’m about to snap and I can’t take anymore. I thought my family loved me but apparently not. As soon as I turned 16 and wasn’t thinking about college they kicked me to the curb.

Top reply
    • RandiJean

      419d

      I'm sorry. 🤗 family can be hard. And being angry is ok. I'm glad you r using this as an outlet. It's healthy. I'm proud of you

    • minime273

      419d

      Just here to let you know that you don't deserve any of that. My mom also grew up secondary to her brother (though neither was exactly pampered), and I'm so lucky to not have that experience firsthand. I will say that if you think you're able to and want to, I know of some free courses/certificates and stuff that might help (esp when it comes to coding) and some sources for "side hustles" if you need to make money. Finally, wanted to say that I'm cheering you on from afar. One day, they won't have to matter to you and you'll be free of their influence. One day healing from their mistreatment will be possible. I love you, fellow human.

    • Denotchka

      419d

      🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • RandiJean

      419d

      I'm sorry. 🤗 family can be hard. And being angry is ok. I'm glad you r using this as an outlet. It's healthy. I'm proud of you

    • SoxyWoxy

      419d

      I know how it feels to have your brother as the favorite. Mine has always been smarter than me. He got into college immediately and did well, went to a very nice, big school. Finished in a normal amount of time. Almost immediately got married after school. Owns a house, has a kid. Makes really great money. I live with my mom, haven't finished school at 31, and am queer and single. I am not on the same religious path as my family, I'm not going to marry a man like my family wants, I'll never have kids like my family wants, I'm going to be the bronze child to my brother's golden status always. It sucks and honestly it doesn't feel any better over the years to know that your brother will always be better than you in so many ways simply because he is successful and you aren't.

    • emptyy

      419d

      16 is soo young there are hardly jobs even hire anyone at that age

    • Denotchka

      419d

      You need to make your own family and just walk away fromwhat they are doing to you.

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