sol.th

113d

Hi everyone💓these days suck. I’m feeling super anxious bc my mind bring me thoughts like: you probably don’t love your girlfriend anymore and I’m like whaaaaat? Bc I know I don’t feel that way but these thoughts are giving me a lot of anxiety bc they make me doubt. Plus, we are having a long distance relationship cause I moved to usa on June and que decided to be like this and I actually have a great time w her💓we laught a lot and we do a lot of stuff together which I enjoy, but IDK whyyyy my mind it’s like “the best decision for us is to break up” but I really don’t want to do that but sometimes my minds tries to convince me that’s the best way, bc obviously it’s not that easy for me being far from her but I know I can, it’s just, I can’t deal w this thoughts🥹

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Marriage counseling

Clonazepam

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Generalized pain

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  • KittyRosa

    113d

    Intrusive thoughts are intrusive. I have found them to be opposite of what I want or how I feel.. almost as if someone else is putting the thoughts there. I think you should tell her you are having intrusive thoughts and explain them along woth explaing it's not what you really want. It wil l give them emss power and maybe she will say something that eill help you not listen them and fight them off

    • sol.th

      113d

      thank you!🥹🥹well, actually she knows and she’s being totally supportive with me. One of the things that scares me or bothers me the most is that I can’t find the reason of these problems or intrusive thoughts. And every time I have this type of thoughts, I can find the reason and when I find the reason, it’s easier for me to calm down, like knowing the source of the problem, you get me? but I think I should stop doing that, it’s just that it’s something that I’m used to do, if a understand it, I think I might figure out in a way which is not that painful/anxious

      • KittyRosa

        112d

        🤔 maybe put a time limit on it. Like give your self a day to think of the why. I am the same.... the why is VERY important. If and when someone tells me I am doing soemthing wrong ir hurting them... I will ask them for a way to correct my behavior, nit because I can't think of a way on my own, but to help guide me in the correct direction to which I will take it from there. So I completely understand.... but trying to force an anwser doesny help

    • sol.th

      113d

      I also hate that these intrusive thoughts, make me feel confused like “maybe I do wanna break up with her” and I really come to wonder if I really want to and then I’m like what the heck I don’t want that

      • KittyRosa

        112d

        maybe you could try ro fight it with logic. You could put a pros vs cons list so you can say sure there are three cons but there are 23 pros. Write yourself a reminder like a letter or a list of all the reason why you love her, want to keep her jn your life etc

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