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sol.th

533d

Hi everyonešŸ’“these days suck. Iā€™m feeling super anxious bc my mind bring me thoughts like: you probably donā€™t love your girlfriend anymore and Iā€™m like whaaaaat? Bc I know I donā€™t feel that way but these thoughts are giving me a lot of anxiety bc they make me doubt. Plus, we are having a long distance relationship cause I moved to usa on June and que decided to be like this and I actually have a great time w heršŸ’“we laught a lot and we do a lot of stuff together which I enjoy, but IDK whyyyy my mind itā€™s like ā€œthe best decision for us is to break upā€ but I really donā€™t want to do that but sometimes my minds tries to convince me thatā€™s the best way, bc obviously itā€™s not that easy for me being far from her but I know I can, itā€™s just, I canā€™t deal w this thoughtsšŸ„¹

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    • KittyRosa

      532d

      @sol.th maybe you could try ro fight it with logic. You could put a pros vs cons list so you can say sure there are three cons but there are 23 pros. Write yourself a reminder like a letter or a list of all the reason why you love her, want to keep her jn your life etc

    • KittyRosa

      533d

      Intrusive thoughts are intrusive. I have found them to be opposite of what I want or how I feel.. almost as if someone else is putting the thoughts there. I think you should tell her you are having intrusive thoughts and explain them along woth explaing it's not what you really want. It wil l give them emss power and maybe she will say something that eill help you not listen them and fight them off

      • sol.th

        533d

        @KittyRosa I also hate that these intrusive thoughts, make me feel confused like ā€œmaybe I do wanna break up with herā€ and I really come to wonder if I really want to and then Iā€™m like what the heck I donā€™t want that

        • KittyRosa

          532d

          @sol.th maybe you could try ro fight it with logic. You could put a pros vs cons list so you can say sure there are three cons but there are 23 pros. Write yourself a reminder like a letter or a list of all the reason why you love her, want to keep her jn your life etc

      • sol.th

        533d

        @KittyRosa thank you!šŸ„¹šŸ„¹well, actually she knows and sheā€™s being totally supportive with me. One of the things that scares me or bothers me the most is that I canā€™t find the reason of these problems or intrusive thoughts. And every time I have this type of thoughts, I can find the reason and when I find the reason, itā€™s easier for me to calm down, like knowing the source of the problem, you get me? but I think I should stop doing that, itā€™s just that itā€™s something that Iā€™m used to do, if a understand it, I think I might figure out in a way which is not that painful/anxious

        • KittyRosa

          532d

          @sol.th šŸ¤” maybe put a time limit on it. Like give your self a day to think of the why. I am the same.... the why is VERY important. If and when someone tells me I am doing soemthing wrong ir hurting them... I will ask them for a way to correct my behavior, nit because I can't think of a way on my own, but to help guide me in the correct direction to which I will take it from there. So I completely understand.... but trying to force an anwser doesny help

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