Feeling Annoying with Lengthy Responses

All the time :’) rejection sensitive dysphoria doesn’t play nice with a condition that affects social interaction

Thanks everyone for your comments 😭 I've felt so worried about it but you guys have been so supportive and helpful with your comments. It's nice to know that we've all had similar struggles

Yeah.....I was bullied to talk a lot less. Nowadays I've found friends who let me ramble and love me for it. Reply in paragraphs. Don't hide your authentic self from the world that'd be such a shame.

Relatable omg. I always eithed have a lot to say or don't know what to say at all, there is no in-between. I feel like I'm always apologizing for messages or comments being too long and worrying that I scared the other person away lmao

I definitely relate! I've found that if I realize too late that my response was way too long for the other person, adding "so that was the long version" in a cheery, joking manner after the response can endear myself a bit to them and they are often less bothered by the length after the "joke"

I relate! When I'm typing a message out i feel like it's short and sweet but then i look back at it and BAM it's huge so i find myself trying to shorten the paragraph and then i take too long to respond to someone then i get anxious and it's just not fun all around lol!

I feel the same! I do it in work emails and in personal texts. I have started adding a tldr at the end to give them a way out of reading the whole thing but still understanding the topic. I keep the tldr at 2 sentences maximum, which is hard to do but I've gotten better at it over time. No one has mentioned it to me yet, but it at least cuts down on my anxiety about talking too much!

I fully relate. I respond with so much but I don't really know how to cut it down to the "important" stuff because to me it's all important. Also, i was also called annoying by the ppl who bullied me. I'm really worried about being annoying and tbh don't feel like i belong most places. I have a few good friends, and I have my family (and both groups are also ND), but I'm still scared I'll annoy them. So yeah, you're not alone. Hopefully we all can heal from how society made us feel

I absolutely relate to what you’re saying! It can be really hard to feel confident in communicating when you have had misunderstandings in the past. Being a late diagnosed autistic, I feel like I have a whole world full of ways I did things “wrong”. But I’m trying to recognize that it’s okay to get things wrong, and the best I can do is explain myself. I hope that you can come to a place of acceptance with how you communicate. I personally find it really helpful to hear from others how their experiences compare; and I try to tell people when I’m sharing that it was my intention to make that connection when sharing about myself as well.