Dealing with a Breakup and Wanting to Stay Friends

Fuck! This guy sounds horrible. No matter how it's making him feel. He should always try to communicate properly with you, especially during a breakup. He cannot blame everything on you. It does sound like he's met someone else, and he's trying to use your BPD as an excuse. BPD doesn't make you a bad person, but splitting up with someone in that way does. If BPD was a physical illness, imagine someone splitting up because they were sick of their wheelchair or something. It's wrong. Using your illness against you is always wrong. In times when this has happened, especially to us. We are told that we NEED to distract ourselves to keep ourselves safe. Have company around, vent to us, watch things, get outside. Keep safe and stay distracted. I wouldn't contact him just yet. This man sounds horrible, and he thinks he's got you wrapped around his finger. Please vent as much as you need to, don't bottle it up