greengirl

298d

This is gonna be hard and long so just try an stick with me here :/
I went through a lot of sexual abuse as a child let’s start with that, so my entire life I’ve had a really messed up relationship with sex and the thought of having sex
I think I use sex as a way of self harm but I’m not sure I could consider it that anyways tho moving on
I dated this guy for about 2 and a half years and he was kinda understanding of the whole sex thing but we still had some problems
We’ll we ended up breaking up about 6 months ago but since then have tried to reconnect with each other
He ended up telling me he had sex with some other girl etc etc etc but that really upset me (even tho we weren’t together, we had been together for years and he didn’t even wait 6 months before finding someone new?) he did cheat on me during our relationship tho and said it was because I didn’t have sex with him often enough
Now that I know all that information on top of my already really fucked up perception of sex I just really don’t think I’m able to be with him
There’s nothing wrong with him other than the whole sex thing
He keeps telling me I just need to get over it because not everyone takes sex as serious as I do but I just don’t know how
I was already having a problem with my sex life and that made it a whole lot worse
So now I’m in this never ending cycle of wanting to be with him because we’ve had so many good memories but also scared to be with him because I’m not ready to have sex with him again and if I don’t I fear he might cheat on me

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  • vanelomi

    296d

    i feel like if he has the nerve to tell you that not everyone takes sex as “seriously” and you do it kind of seems like he’s saying it’s it a big deal. If it’s not a big deal why does he feel the need to cheat on you because of the lack of it? I feel like someone who truly understands you wouldn’t ever cheat knowing your opinion over it. Ofc i’m not saying they should just throw away their own urges for you but i AM saying that there’s other ways to take care of them. It’s not like having sex with another person is the only option.

  • Jesuslovesme

    296d

    Honestly, I would listen to RC Blakes on YouTube he gives the father daughter talk that all daddies should have given their Daughters. I love him. He has told me things that my daddy didn't cuz he wasn't there.

  • Jesuslovesme

    296d

    https://youtu.be/Vm5ioBIcSA4

  • Jesuslovesme

    296d

    I put up with a lot of sexual abuse as a kid also. And then became a sugar baby and a prostitute

  • Carnival

    281d

    he seems like an asshole that's using your bad relationship with sexual intimacy as a a reason to cheat on you; he's not worth it. He's trying to sit her and justify his bad behavior on you and make it your fault ; that's not okay

    • greengirl

      277d

      I left him and we’re no longer in contact thank god 🙌

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