MissWilwarin

181d

I’ve started dating a guy who also have ADHD and ASD. And it’s honestly been amazing. Everyone has their struggles, but dating someone with the same neuro divergencies has led me to connecting with him like I’ve never done with any other guy I’ve dated. 10/10 Highly recommend

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  • wise

    181d

    YES it's incredible. My partner has ADHD, OCD, and autism, AND he's got the same rare genetic condition I have (EDS) and he can't have gluten either?? if I didn't know any better I'd say we're secretly siblings lol. it's nice because we get along really well, I don't have to explain parallel play to him because that's his preferred method of hanging out with people, and he's not totally clueless when it comes to being chronically ill or having to take extra steps to be safe and comfortable

    • MissWilwarin

      181d

      it’s so nice to be able to bounce from subject to subject and then bounce back to a subject we go diverted from. Having someone who thinks in a similar way that you do makes a relationship easier. You don’t have to explain everything to them because they just get it.

    • SalineTurnip

      178d

      I had to look up parallel play. I did this with a friend in my 20s. She would be playing video games on my computer and I would be playing video games on my TV. Lol. I loved it. It's so nice when someone really gets you.

      • MissWilwarin

        178d

        I love doing this together, but I’d rather us do separate things we enjoy rather than one person doing something they don’t enjoy just because the other person does.

  • SpickleManIckle

    181d

    100% My boyfriend and I are both borderline and a few other similarities and it’s been the best relationship I’ve ever had. I love this guy so much. He just gets me.

  • krazeeKatMom

    181d

    I have a boyfriend with ASD as well. He is awesome and we have been together for 4 years.

  • Heaven197987

    181d

    100% honestly is hard to relate to others that aren't Nero detergent, ADHD takes another ADHD person to understand each other

    • MissWilwarin

      181d

      I would 100% buy something called Neuro detergent.

      • Heaven197987

        180d

        lol sorry spelling weak point

  • Elytra

    181d

    Absolutely! My boyfriend has ADHD, autism, CPTSD and DID, as well as having a bachelor's degree in psychology with an emphasis on therapy techniques so he's well versed on how to help people with the mental health issues that we share. So it's been absolutely incredible to have someone who understands me better than I understand myself

  • Sadventurer

    181d

    I’m also dating a guy with ADHD and it’s not ideal. He started Concerta last year; it’s not working. We can’t pick up each other’s slack because we’re both hopeless at things. For some reason he relies on me to keep track of appointments, and I try, but usually just end up gesturing wildly at my own untreated ADHD as the deadline sails by. We also kind of enable avoidant behavior in each other. He’s great and I love him to pieces but the double ADHD is so frustrating.

    • MissWilwarin

      180d

      yeah I can definitely understand how double adhd would be difficult. I’ve been trying really hard to make changes/accommodate my adhd. For appointments and things, I use both alerts on my phone and I have a physical agenda to write all my things down in. I’m living with roommates, so I try to organize my things the kitchen in a way so can remember what’s mine and what’s theirs. It’s all about making small changes

  • spicysugar

    178d

    Yeah, I met my partner in the mental hospital. I know that sounds like a bad idea, but it's been the best 2 years going on 3 of my life so far 💕

    • Heaven197987

      178d

      my dad did that they were more companions they were non sexaul but the loved each other and she saved him he was working on getting sober and he stayed that way she gave him 15 more years. What I'm saying is not about where you met them it's all about how you connect.

      • spicysugar

        178d

        exactly! I like that sentiment a lot

    • MissWilwarin

      178d

      at least when you meet in a mental hospital, you don’t have to tell them you’ve got issues.

      • spicysugar

        178d

        LOL yeah, we talk about that a lot. That and how we were able to whisper so quietly in a silent room that the mental health workers were nervous but we were legit just talking about our dogs at home

  • Bridgette

    178d

    I think my bf may have ADHD cuz I see some things like memory issues and procrastinating and ECT but thing is it's hard cuz I gotta deal with my own ADHD and sadly I'm impatient so yah...idk I can't even deal with my slow self so Itd hard to deal with his lateness cuz I'm impatient makes no sense I should be more forgiving but it's hard

  • chihiro.sen

    178d

    yes my ADHD partner and i established "just tell me everything" communication since the beginning and its been WONDERFUL 💕A

    • spicysugar

      178d

      yeah, my partner dosent have any attention disorders but they very much appriciate when I just tell them every detail of anything/everything just in case it's important and I don't realize it

  • rj.crow

    177d

    Same with me and my boyfriend! He has ADHD and after hearing my experience he thinks he may be autistic too and I agree. It’s such a relief to not have to mask around him at all

  • crash101

    177d

    Heartfire14 I have the same problem. I get dates but so far nobody worth my time. I have an innate ability to tell when things ain't working out. But what keeps me going is this. My wife who died 5 years ago would want to see me happy and move on with my life. If you want to know how she passed away I'll only discuss it in a private message. Not in public. And yes that's what triggered my ptsd

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