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I’m in a bit of a predicament right now. I broke up with my long term boyfriend around mid June. The relationship was long distance and the breakup happened because he was avoiding spending time with me and we just weren’t compatible anymore. Now, two months later I have this new friend who I can tell cares about me a lot, and I’m worried that I’m catching feelings towards him. He’s honestly one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met. I’ve been thinking about him a lot lately and fantasizing what it would be like to date this guy. I feel like we might be compatible, but I don’t know how my anxiety and his ADHD could affect things. I’m worried that I’m rebounding. I mean it’s only been like two months! Like what if I just like this dude because he’s giving me the care and attention that I haven’t had in so long? I want to trust my feelings, but don’t want to hurt him. What should I do?

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    • BulletproofRose

      616d

      Don't worry about whether it's a rebound, because that doesn't really mean anything. When a relationship ends, we look to form new ones and there's no reason you need to wait before you seek new relationships. You deserve to be happy! From what you've said, it sounds like you're interested in a relationship with him for sure! I would say that before you jump in to anything new, take some time to think about what kind of relationship you're looking for. Do you want to be casual with someone, are you looking to be in a serious partnership, do you just want a close friend to spend time with? All of these are valid relationships to pursue, but if you want to avoid hurting him then you should be clear about what you want, both with him and with yourself. Best of luck! 💕

    • BulletproofRose

      616d

      Don't worry about whether it's a rebound, because that doesn't really mean anything. When a relationship ends, we look to form new ones and there's no reason you need to wait before you seek new relationships. You deserve to be happy! From what you've said, it sounds like you're interested in a relationship with him for sure! I would say that before you jump in to anything new, take some time to think about what kind of relationship you're looking for. Do you want to be casual with someone, are you looking to be in a serious partnership, do you just want a close friend to spend time with? All of these are valid relationships to pursue, but if you want to avoid hurting him then you should be clear about what you want, both with him and with yourself. Best of luck! 💕

    • rinabel

      616d

      i was in a similar situation not long ago. my best friend confessed he had feelings for me and i had started getting them too. i was just completely honest with him and told him that i was worried about only liking him because of the attention and that i didn’t want to hurt him, but i thought i did like him. we’re dating now and i’m glad i was honest ☺️ i think the fact that you’re concerned shows you really care about him, and i would just tell him about your feelings and your potential concerns

    • Knotless1133

      616d

      I was kind of like this with my bf now. I had just come out of a bad breakup. I didn’t know if I really wanted him, or if I just wanted the care and attention he gave me. I was straight up with him and I told him we can talk and see how it goes. I made sure to let him know that I’m not really sure if I should be getting myself into something especially since it wasn’t that long that I broke up with my bf. He was ok with it and understood.

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