Unicornslayer27

9d

so wanted to ask for some advice about my emotionally abusive mom and family, what do you do when your mom has legal custody of your daughter but she's still treating me like im a teenager and emotionally abuses me ? do I cut all contact with my mom or try to just set a lot of boundaries because of my daughter?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

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  • Unicornslayer27

    9d

    Also my mom doesn't care about me emotional or physical needs just my daughters needs and me taking care of her thats it

  • ceruleanstar

    9d

    Is there a court order in place, does your daughter have a social worker on her case? I don't know the details of your situation, but I was in a similar one. I put up with my mother for my son, even though it was miserable. I had to accept the fact that my mother did not care about me. It was so hard. I communicated with her only to see my child and be a part of his life. 15 years later, I wish I had handled things differently and fought for my son instead of allowing him to be raised by my toxic family. In the end, it is all about your daughter, do whatever you have to in order for her to have a good life. If that means setting boundaries with your mother, then do that. I just think you would regret cutting her off and not being a part of your daughter's life. I would just suggest communicating with your mother only about your daughter, absolutely nothing else.

    • Unicornslayer27

      9d

      i don't have visitation set up but I plan on setting up supervised visits for my safety from my mom not because I can't be trusted around my daughter and ah okay I can set boundaries with her then

      • ceruleanstar

        9d

        Yes, definitely set up supervised visits! That's a very smart idea for yourself. I'd go as low-contact with your mom that you can and only stick to talking to her about your daughter when you ABSOLUTELY have to. It's what I wish I had done with my mom, it would've saved me a LOT of heartache if I had accepted that she didn't care anything about me a lot sooner. I'm sorry you're struggling, I know how hard it is.

  • Unicornslayer27

    9d

    But its court ordered my mom have custody of my daughter only because the courts at this time find my mom better fit for her then me and she doesn't have a social worker on her case but she's terrible at her job honestly never talked to me really and just my mom

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