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DeepThinker99

535d

Any other autistic women of color out there? I feel really isolated even within the autistic community because I can’t really relate to a lot of white autistic experiences. Like the way I was raised in an immigrant household is so different and I was forced to suppress so many autistic traits in such an extreme way because I was expected to conform so heavily just to get anywhere in the world. My parents would literally yell if I didn’t make eye contact and have “fake conversations” with me to practice being socially accepted in society. I feel like I didn’t get the opportunity that lot of white autistic people got as a child to express their autistic traits because I think white parenting is generally more lenient. And I’m just now being able to unlearn all this in my 20s.

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    • DeepThinker99

      521d

      @Overcomer 100% agreed

    • Overcomer

      522d

      Understand Deep thinker. Black autistic individuals are different than white autistic individuals. I am black

      • DeepThinker99

        521d

        @Overcomer 100% agreed

    • SpicyNueritto

      522d

      Hunnyyyy I feel it, especially in the black community any mental health or disorder that makes you look weak is a no-no and we do not talk about it🙄 that's why this generation needs to come together and support each other! And the whole mental and emotional abuse especially as autistic was just omfg! Being abused because of something no one told us we had on top of not understanding why we did it the first place! Being undiagnosed until adulthood it out everything into perspective! I mean the stims were there and idk how no one noticed but it definitely sucks and I totally get the feeling of noone truly understanding you at all!

      • DeepThinker99

        521d

        @SpicyNueritto the stigma is very real🙁 I’m glad there’s other communities of color that can relate and also share more insight. It’s crazy how autistic traits can present differently depending on cultures and but it’s always associated with white ppl. Even the differences between different POC groups too depending on culture norms.

    • DeepThinker99

      530d

      If any of y’all wanna start a POC autistic group support, pls message me! Not sure the best way to go about it but I’m open to ideas! Or just if there’s an existing one, please let me know! It would be nice to share resources and helpful info!

    • israeltheodore

      534d

      i am another poc autistic but i am trans non-binary masculine and hispanic. i relate to everything you said in this post. i’m still learning a lot about how to unmask and that it’s okay to be myself around ppl i’m close to

      • DeepThinker99

        530d

        @israeltheodore yes unmasking is definitely difficult and reminding ourselves to be true to us is so important! I’m also part of the lgbtq+ community (lesbian) so it’s definitely hard trying to find a community that intersects autism, being a poc, and queer!

    • Wednesday_7

      535d

      I'm an autistic poc. Yeah, it's weird with so many autistic places being so white, but yeah.

      • DeepThinker99

        530d

        @Wednesday_7 yess. A lot of Autism awareness/acceptance movements are very white-centered. It’s sometimes hard to relate in those spaces

    • Izzyb

      535d

      Hey I’m an autistic women of color and my father is an immigrant as well. So growing up my family knew I was different but didn’t have me tested for anything. But when I turned 18 I went and got myself tested. Telling my parents I have autism they instantly refused the idea and told me that my doctors didn’t know what they were talking about. I have to now work hard as an adult on my own to figure out who I am after so many years of convincing myself I knew exactly who I am.

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @Izzyb same here. My dad is from iran and they really don’t interpret mental health the same way as in the west. It’s so taboo or not seen as “real.” It’s definitely hard to find out how to find your place in the world when your cultural side doesn’t believe you and you can’t relate to most of the autistic community

    • AnimalBoy

      535d

      I'm a brown autistic AFAB person, I'm not a woman but since I was raised as such I relate to quite a bit of your post. I've never really felt like I relate to my white autistic peers as much as I should. I learned at a fairly young age to fake eye contact so my mother would stop forcing me and eventually I just isolated myself from that entire part of the family and now we rarely speak.

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @AnimalBoy the forcing eye contact was a big thing for me too. It can definitely contribute to family strains :(

    • SalineTurnip

      535d

      I am an autistic person of color. My parents didn't bother having fake conversations with me but I was expected to act neurotypical. And they didn't bother to get me diagnosed either. But I can relate to not being able to express autistic traits as a child.

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @SalineTurnip yesss. Literally the thought of autism did not cross my parents mind too

    • Viynyl

      535d

      Hellos, I'm also an autistic person of colour! ♡ I can totally relate to your experience /gen

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @Viynyl that’s so great to hear others can relate ❤️

    • Conlarghezza

      535d

      Hello I am a black autistic woman

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @Conlarghezza hi! Nice to meet you!

    • Sydie_Bear

      535d

      I can’t really comment because I’m white, but I did want to tell you that there is an #autizzy tag on tiktok that is specific for black autistic voices!

      • DeepThinker99

        535d

        @Sydie_Bear thank you!! I will check that out!

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