How to Trust Your Partner and Overcome Insecurities

Therapy with a therapist you trust is one of the best ways, but I will admit cycling through therapists to find one that "clicks" can be a very taxing process. I am lucky to have mine.

I feel like it is always in the back of my mind having happened so many times in previous relationships. Also know it’s not your fault ever if someone decides to cheat on you, and your worth doesn’t lay in that situation. Talk to your partner about your fears and about everything. A relationship normally only works if you both tell each other everything, or nothing at all in my experience. keep your sex life and personal life lively and interesting, and give your partner the same devotion and loyalty you expect from him/her, keep communicating and they should have no reason to want to cheat. Tell your partner what makes you uncomfortable, discuss boundaries, and love deep without fear. Ive learned I can’t punish other people by my lack of trust when they’ve given me no reason to distrust, because it’s not fair to assume everyone will do that or is the same. But trust is hard to learn again, and I haven’t come far with that myself. Hope this helps, and wish you both happiness!

For me I sat down and talked to my boyfriend about this over dinner. I have the same scary thoughts. I laid out how women with chronic illness get left more often than men by their partners and how I was afraid. And he listened. Which is what I needed, I needed to just word vomit all my fears and share them with him. He’s on the team ya know? When I was done he talked to me about every point I had made and hat we’ve already been through. And he joked and teased me “honey if I didn’t leave you when you did x and y Im not gonna leave you” we talked about where we’re headed longterm and we talked about what would happen if he ever did want to leave me or I him. And it really helped. I feel a lot more comfortable now with us and he now watches out for my big mood shifts. He’s my partner and helps me carry this kind of thing. I totally understand the fear of burning him out, but maybe give him a chance to show you he can handle all this and help you ❤️

I follow Instagram accounts that are uplifting and address how to manage intrusive thoughts. May not be helpful for you, tho. 💕

What is DBT? Also how can I practice CBT? I’m kind of new.

Practicing mindfulness as well as CBT and DBT skills really helped me with obsessive worrying