MultiMato

14d

I was just diagnosed a few months ago with Autism (at the age of 25), and I’m struggling with unmasking and embracing my traits without shame. I would love some tips from people in a similar situation!

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Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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  • Neptune_64

    14d

    the best thing I've found is to be around people who are familiar with autistic traits and people you feel comfortable around. also I've had to adjust to accepting that I benefit from things like noise cancelling headphones, and so carrying them around with me often makes it easier to remember to use them

    • MultiMato

      14d

      thank you! I live in an area where it’s hard to find people familiar with autism, but I was lucky enough to find a therapist experienced with neurodivergent people, and that’s been a big help. And noise cancelling earbuds have been a live saver, but I’m still working on using them when I need to in front of people.

  • opposum

    14d

    as someone who was also diagnosed in adulthood, its hard to not feel ashamed. Autism is often fed to the masses as an infantilized mental disorder. finding support within people close to you is very important to feel comfortable. Of course, you do not need to wear autism on your sleeve either. It often isn't obvious when someone has autism (it doesnt matter anyway BUT it helped me earlier on to think that no one knew). If anyone ever begins to behave differently around you that isnt to accommodate or to comfort, be careful and remember your worth.

    • MultiMato

      14d

      thank you so much 🤍

  • IZZRDPT

    13d

    I would just say to not be afraid to set form boundaries and tell people exactly what you need. It's not a bad thing to be autistic, and people who act like it is need to be informed or cut off.

  • Icky

    12d

    just be yourself. you don't have to start "acting autistic" to be autistic. I never learned how to mask, but i think that's mostly because i dont care how other people perceive me. it's just never been important. feel free to talk about your feelings more, etc. but you don't need to start running around the store flapping and melting down constantly to "prove" yourself to anyone

    • MultiMato

      11d

      for sure! I just want to stop bottling up so much that it continues to destroy my mental health and self esteem.

  • Sali

    12d

    I totally relate to this. If it helps, you can always practice unmasking when you're alone first, or with a few people you really trust. Unmasking can also look like accommodating yourself in daily life. One of the biggest things I did for myself was to get comfortable wearing earplugs in stores. Made a huge difference for me.

  • royalty

    11d

    I personally started with allowing myself at least one comfort object whenever I left the house, whether that be a stuffed animal, a fidget tool, or something else.

  • Eren2273

    10d

    I've lived my life around people who judge or don't understand my autism. My advice would be to not care what others think of you, and if they will listen, you can try explaining it to them. There's no need to be ashamed of your traits, you're perfectly valid the way you are. If people judge you, try to find some better friends, there's a lot of other people just like you that would love to make friends!

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