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TL;DR I know this is very situation to situation but what would you do if your significant other cheated on you? Am I harming myself giving him a second chance? My boyfriend of only 4 months recently cheated on me. I’ve cheated before but that was when I was a kid and naïve and it wasn’t a “real relationship” (ya know?) and I never confronted that person or felt bad about it but he came to me after it happened and was balling in my lap (he doesn’t cry like ever, in the 5 years I’ve known him) and he’s super apologetic and has SHOWN (not just said) that he’s changing and he really REALLY messed up. But it’s causing my anxiety to spiral to think about other things and stress about them. I don’t know what to do.

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    • Ronga

      772d

      If they do it once, they’ll do it twice. Don’t even bother with people who don’t respect you.

    • Ronga

      772d

      If they do it once, they’ll do it twice. Don’t even bother with people who don’t respect you.

    • bluecube__

      776d

      you need to take care of yourself first. you don’t owe anyone a relationship and are allowed to leave for whatever reason. i agree with the comment about weighing the benefits vs. stress. you should communicate about what happened though, to know why he cheated and actually see if that’s something you can reasonably handle in the relationship. you can’t avoid being some level of anxious, but you deserve to be with someone that won’t violate the boundaries of your relationship and make your anxiety unreasonably worse.

    • Kat_bee

      776d

      If it only took being together for 4 months for him to cheat on you, youre better off leaving now. He might be sorry and thats great but its not healthy to stay with him

    • mahrigxld

      776d

      Of course only you know your relationship best, but if you’re constantly going to be concerned about what he’s doing or where he’s going, that’s not sustainable for you or your mental health. The best thing I think to do is communicate with your boyfriend and let him know what you’re anxious about. best wishes to you ❤️❤️

    • BunnyLesbian

      776d

      ultimately, i think you have to weigh the emotional benefit of being with him vs. the stress his cheating is inflicting on you.

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