Hey, so I need to tell people this before I explode with excitement! I'm gonna fly to Arizona to surprise my boyfriend (C)! My brother and I are flying out on Saturday, and I can't wait! The closer it gets, the harder it is to not tell C!! He's been having a rough week because of school/midterms and just life in general, so I wanna cheer him up by telling him that I'll be there in a few days, but I've been planning this surprise for a month, so I don't want to ruin it.

It's so hard seeing him stressed and hurting and not being able to help. I have to keep reminding myself that I'll be able to help better on Saturday and next week when I'm there in person, but it's still hard. I love him so much, so when he's having a hard time, I feel it in my heart. I just wish I could make everything better for him, with school, family, and work, but I can't do a lot. The best I can do is pray for him all the time and visit him sometimes.

Hugs are healing. I want to help C by giving him a healing hug and reminding him that I love him. I can't wait to see his face when he sees me just sitting in his living room when he gets home from work!

I'm nervous to fly though because I haven't been on a plane since I was 10. My social anxiety is gonna flare up, I'm sure, but I hope that having my brother with me will help because he's flown by himself several times.

Anyway, that was really long, but I need to get it out somewhere so I don't spoil the surprise! Any tips on how to not let it out would be great!

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  • WhiteFlamingo


    I'm so happy for you! This is very exciting indeed. I have a hard time keeping secrets like this, too. It's just so tempting to tell them because I know it would make them so happy! It helps to think about how much happier they'll be if it is a surprise. Sometimes I will let a bit of the energy out by telling my boyfriend that I have a surprise for him, but sometimes it makes it harder to keep it a surprise. Make sure you have a good excuse for why you can't message your boyfriend during the times you're not allowed to use your phone on the plane. As for your social anxiety, I recommend a good music playlist and headphones - that often helps me take my mind off other people around me.

    • catlover55


      thank you! That's very helpful!

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