Struggling with Depression and Anxiety

I hear you and see that you are hurting and struggling. It can be so very hard and overwhelming when you are in the middle of it. Some people "overcome" their depression by learning skills to cope with life and building healthy habits. And some manage with medications. And some need both. Medication isn't inherently wrong or bad. When you meet someone who is diabetic - you don't tell them that they don't need to depend on insulin for the rest of their lives, they can overcome their diabetes. That same way, treat yourself with kindness. Depression is often a lack of good neurotransmitters that help you to function. Altered brain chemistry is as much your fault as a pancreas that doesn't make enough insulin is a diabetics fault. Human bodies are weird and fallible.