Feeling Lost After a Breakup

I'm sorry for your pain. If you would like, we can message back and forth on here. We could exchange stories about our medications, exes, even heartbreak. Please, just talk to me

Sorry to hear about your breakup. I'm not sure of your age, but this seems like your first true heartbreak. They are generally the toughest b/c it is unfamiliar territory. Most emotionally healthy people go through this, so we know how it feels. Devastating. Imo, It's cliche but very true "only time can heal a broken heart" Two parts are in play. How you feel about yourself and how you feel about her. You can do some things to help yourself while you're getting over her, as what she is doing is out of your control. Be kind to yourself by rembering that you are hurting. It is hard to be objective when your emotions are running high. Get through it by staying busy, but don't numb yourself out because you'll have to deal with it now or later. There is no short or easy fix, but when the time comes when you can be more objective, look at your part in the relationship and what you might have done differently. You can learn and grow or blame and become bitter. This can be a great, although painful way to learn how to deal with breakups because it probably won't be the last. One day you will get over her and you will know when that time comes. Everyone heals in their own time. I remember the last time that I had my heart broken. I cried for 30 straight days. I let myself go through what I had to, because this person was a narcissist and it took a while for him to show his true colors. I was devastated but knew if I went near him again, he would eventually hurt me again. One day, some months later, I knew that I was over him. I can't tell you exactly how that felt but I just knew. I didn't jump into another relationship to get over that one because I knew that it wouldn't be fair to use someone else to try to feel better. I couldn't love anyone else until I stopped loving him. He blindsided me, as he was the perfect, loving guy and one day he showed his true nature. It can take a long time for people to really show their true colors. The day will come when you are over her and you'll know it. I hope that you are willing to let yourself feel this pain and I believe, with all of my heart, that you will come out stronger, smarter and better as a man and a partner for someone better suited, fot you. I hope that she isn't a game player because you could keep getting hurt if she wants to see if she can keep you on a string. Many people do that and if you know that it really was the wrong relationship for you, the best thing that you can do for yourself is not to contact or answer her calls because it will just prolong your pain and destroy your dignity, as well. I wish you the strength to do whatever you need to do, to get through this hard time.

But I learned from someone after she turned me down that kinda makes since: "respect the dead and move on"

Similar case here. Breaking up with her wasn't easy. It felt necessary but I lost a piece of me in the process. To this day, 5 years down the drain just like that. I tried to ask her back, but she didn't agree. I feel regret and freedom at the same time every day since then. Still not sure if that's good or bad.