I've been talking to this guy for a while now and everything has been okay for the most part up until a week or so ago. my anxiety and depression has been acting up and I just realizing that he's been super busy lately and never has time to talk anymore. I asked if he even wanted to talk anymore and he said yes he's just too busy. am I overreacting? we both are in college and there is a bit of distance, which is a whole other thing, but idk what to do any time I mention something he kinda brushes me off saying everything is okay between us and I'm fine.
I don’t have any advice because we’re in the exact situation. I asked my guy the same things. Shared the same concerns and He just tells me everything is fine. He’s just busy. I asked if he just want stop talking and he says no. He’s tells me it’ll be over soon (he’ll have more time) but it’s been months now.
From the outside it seems like he's trying to reassure you that you are not a burden in his life and that everything is fine between you two. But if he's not allowing you to speak, and instead tells you that you have nothing to worry about, I view that as a red flag. Communicate your needs, Communicate that you need to be able to talk to him about how you're feeling even if it is irrational to everyone else. If he's open to that.. give it a chance.. if he's not.. then you know where you stand. 🤟🏽❤
So my fiance is stationed on the other side of the country. There are days when I barely even text him let Line talk. My best advice is both parties have to WANT to make time. He'll text me in the bathroom to just say i love you or call me in his lunch to eat together. Talk to this person about ways to just work in minutes here and there to remind one another you're still thinking of each other
If you're in college try doing homework together. I had a hard time with this when I was in school because we'd get distracted so we keep ourselves muted and just exist in each other presence
Well I'm kind of in the same boat, distractions help me like work, movies, video games, friends. I shoot him a text now and again but I find myself to busy to think about him
Too busy to think about him? That's okay if it works for you and your relationship but most people especially with anxiety don't ever want to have that. The idea of my fiance veing too busy to think about me is detrimentally painful. For most people that's actually really healthy and tends to lead to feeling unloved or unwanted so unless it works for you specifically I don't recommend trying to switch to that mind set
Sorry, I do have extreme anxiety, I could have worded it better, we still get time to see each other and talk but it's not everyday. I have to distract myself so I don't spam him or start getting into my separation habits again
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I've been talking to this guy for a while now and everything has been okay for the most part up until a week or so ago. my anxiety and depression has been acting up and I just realizing that he's been super busy lately and never has time to talk anymore. I asked if he even wanted to talk anymore and he said yes he's just too busy. am I overreacting? we both are in college and there is a bit of distance, which is a whole other thing, but idk what to do any time I mention something he kinda brushes me off saying everything is okay between us and I'm fine.
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