Nightmares about my boyfriend

I’ve had similar dreams about my current partner. I don’t get them as much anymore – I think what’s helped me is, in my waking life, (and it might seem obvious) reminding myself that my current partner is a fundamentally different person with a different upbringing and past than my ex and who also shows me everyday that he supports me in my healing. I think thinking about their differences this way has helped soothe my trauma a little. I know it can be so scary and disregulating to experience these dreams and I’m sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there ❤️

I used to get this often and it's starting to happen often again. I used to take prazosin for nightmares and it worked wonders. Went from having nightmares several times a week to once or twice a month or less. Eventually tapered off of it because I didn't feel like I needed it as much and was trying to find the source of some miscellaneous side effects (I think it was in part due to the prazosin but mostly because I wasn't eating or drinking enough.) But before then, I'm not really sure what to do either. I'm going to try learning lucid dreaming, I've done it once before.

When you do go see your psych ask about prazosin. It really has helped me. My nightmares are very few and far between whereas before I was having at least 2-3 a week. I, too had an abusive ex so I feel your pain. What also helps me too is to get a dreamcatcher. It doesn’t always work but the thought of having it there calms me which in turn helps my nightmares. Take care 💕

I don’t know any tricks about managing the content of nightmares, but I do empathize with this situation a bit. I dream about my ex-husband often, and it’s always nightmares; I was abused by him for 15 years. The fear I recognize is that my new partner will abuse me the same way. When we’ve been traumatized - especially when it’s been chronic - we develop a constant state of being on guard, waiting for the other shoe to drop. I deal with this often. It occurs to me that your nightmares could be a signal of that fear in you, and even though you consciously know your current partner is not like that, your subconscious is still afraid it could happen, and trying to warn you so you can protect yourself. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I hope this can help, even if only a little bit. At the very least, I hope it helps you feel less alone. 💖 P.S.: If you really want to manage the content of your dreams, you may want to look into Lucid Dreaming.