Struggling to Make Friends as a Loner

People get rude sometimes when they are trying to be 'adults' they think being snobby is mature. Some of my friends went through that phase and then several years later hit me up on social media like nothing ever happened instead of being bitter i let them have the delusion that nothing has changed. I still occasionally talk to several of them but we are all much older living our own lives and just randomly chat every few months. I have a horrible time making new friends so i just am grateful for the ones who eventually came back.

I have autism, so this has been an issue I put a lot of thought into the last few years since I moved out of town. The thing is making friends takes a tremendous amount of effort and patience. In high school, I feel in a sense it’s easier because we are constantly exposed to each other nearly 24/7 so making friends is kinda easier. But when you are out in the real world, you kinda don’t have that advantage— even in university. You have to make it happen in order to see them, and that’s pretty challenging thats a tall order introverted people no less in a pandemic. I think the biggest step though is trying to break that barrier between just a casual friend in class and like a friend friend. It takes persistence and time, and trust me if that person likes you, you will eventually break that barrier. Just give it some time and it’ll happen probably on its own if you go to the right places

It can be really hard to push yourself out there but once you get your practice, you'll be making new friends soon. I still struggle with making friends too but it just takes time.

I have a very hard time making friends and most of the ones I have I've had for a long time as well. And with my mental and physical heslth issues? Yikes. Putting yourself out there is really hard- and being rejected is one of the worst experiences imo. It's embarassing and hurts like no other. The best way I've found to make friends because of this is online. I've met so many amazing people online- including my partner of nearly 3 years (friends for ten!). Discord groups, websites, social media, online games, and the like can all be a very great place to make friends if you're willing. It'd easier to find people online with common interests and values than irl in my experience. If you want to go the irl route I'd suggest local stuff. If you like animals I'd volunteer at the local shelter. Joining local groups or clubs in your area. Stuff like that. Less reliably I'd say working. Some co-workers can be great, others.... not so much. If you ever want to chat with me feel free to message me. I know what it's like ❤️‍🩹🧡

I find people with like categories that you have helps. I got anxiety and depression too ,so I understand it's hard making friends. Maybe look into a mood pill. Mine is called Zoloft and it helps make me less depressed and anxious.