Jael

304d

does anybody else get extreme explosive rage over small inconveniences? Last night I tried sizing my septum up but both of the jewelry pieces I had fell on the floor and broke. It was such a small thing but I lost my absolute shit over it. Ended up throwing a tantrum and trashed the bathroom and my room. Does anybody know how to rationalize the rage so it’s not so like…destructive? I don’t live alone yet so I know it’s an inconvenience to my family when I lose it but it’s hard cause I know I can’t help it. Idk I want to find better outlets for it over throwing and breaking things or physically hitting myself.

Chronic Irritability and Anger

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • alara

    304d

    Yes I’m the same way!! Little things like not being able to find my keys will send me into a full rage. I usually try to do some self care like showering, but I also bought a punching bag and have a box of papers that I can rip to shreds. Sometimes that anger just has to come out, so I just give it a minimally destructive outlet!

    • LadyTavali

      304d

      shredding paper is so therapeutic for me! I can’t believe I forgot how much I did that when I was a teenager!

  • LadyTavali

    304d

    It’s honestly extremely common with BPD. I choke myself and hit myself and bite myself when I get too emotional. It’s embarrassing to me to admit that but I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been working on meditation and mindfulness to help me channel things better. I also use creativity as an outlet for self expression.

  • asyphix

    302d

    it honestly happens to me so often. i'd suggest taking a step back from whatever's happening, use things that you'd usually use to relax yourself (drawing, listening to music, etc.) and then get back to what you were trying to do when you're calmed down. if you can't calm down w/o exerting physical violence, i'd recommend a punching bag or a pillow/stuffed animal if you don't have a punching bag/can't afford one.

  • alara

    302d

    Came back to this post because EXERCISE is a good outlet for that rage too!!! I like to go to the gym or for a run or even just do jumping jacks in my room to get the energy out. Hard to be that angry when I’m exhausted!

  • Kat707

    301d

    Look into MMA fight training. Helps take out the anger in a healthy way

  • Mija

    300d

    My mom's friend also gives me a hard time when she moves my items. She tells me, every time I set down something to make a mental note of what items I set down at where and hold onto that temporary memory. Letting go of that memory when said item is retrieved is practice for letting go of rage. What a f bitch. But she's right. Shit.

  • fussybandit

    300d

    this, except try being me with an intense patience chakra and refusing to have a fit so you boil inside profusely, about to rip someone's ass off in the worst way possible. eek. that's me.

    • Mija

      298d

      That's NAUSEA coming up in 4...3...2...1...ah.

  • Squirrel_brain

    298d

    I would highly recommend purchasing a DBT book to work through. I had similar reactions that were extremely distressing and often ended in SH episodes. However with some DBT skills under my belt I have learned a lot about how to manage my intense feelings. Also, something that has stuck with me for a long time is how my DBT therapist told me that “we can feel angry enough to hit someone or destroy things, but we can’t hit someone or destroy things.” Anytime my emotions get out of control I will just repeat that over and over to myself “I can feel this much, and I need to handle it appropriately”. I hope that is helpful ❤️

  • fussybandit

    294d

    yup, makes it worst that i have my dad's anger issues. GRRR.

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