Dealing with Explosive Rage: Need Help!

yup, makes it worst that i have my dad's anger issues. GRRR.

I would highly recommend purchasing a DBT book to work through. I had similar reactions that were extremely distressing and often ended in SH episodes. However with some DBT skills under my belt I have learned a lot about how to manage my intense feelings. Also, something that has stuck with me for a long time is how my DBT therapist told me that “we can feel angry enough to hit someone or destroy things, but we can’t hit someone or destroy things.” Anytime my emotions get out of control I will just repeat that over and over to myself “I can feel this much, and I need to handle it appropriately”. I hope that is helpful ❤️

My mom's friend also gives me a hard time when she moves my items. She tells me, every time I set down something to make a mental note of what items I set down at where and hold onto that temporary memory. Letting go of that memory when said item is retrieved is practice for letting go of rage. What a f bitch. But she's right. Shit.

Look into MMA fight training. Helps take out the anger in a healthy way

Came back to this post because EXERCISE is a good outlet for that rage too!!! I like to go to the gym or for a run or even just do jumping jacks in my room to get the energy out. Hard to be that angry when I’m exhausted!

it honestly happens to me so often. i'd suggest taking a step back from whatever's happening, use things that you'd usually use to relax yourself (drawing, listening to music, etc.) and then get back to what you were trying to do when you're calmed down. if you can't calm down w/o exerting physical violence, i'd recommend a punching bag or a pillow/stuffed animal if you don't have a punching bag/can't afford one.

It’s honestly extremely common with BPD. I choke myself and hit myself and bite myself when I get too emotional. It’s embarrassing to me to admit that but I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been working on meditation and mindfulness to help me channel things better. I also use creativity as an outlet for self expression.