SoraSora

338d

Does anyone else obsess over their partners past relationship/has intrusive thoughts of their partner with other people whether just their partner being in a relationship with someone else or having sex with them? I do not want to have these thoughts and they make me so sad and upset. I have been able to ground myself and get through it though but I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else is like this and could this be part of OCD?
I just wish my mind would stop going there or thinking of him having sex or doing things we do in his past relationship.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

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  • QueenOfCrohns

    338d

    Depends, are you diagnosed with OCD? If you aren’t, then I’d just say this is fairly normal. Everyone gets weird intrusive thoughts and yes, they can be distressing. As long as you’re not engaging in daily, time consuming compulsions, then it’s probably not OCD and just regular intrusive thoughts. On the other hand, If you DO have diagnosed OCD, then absolutely. Relationship OCD is a very common theme. Most people who have OCD will develop it when they get into a relationship. It just comes with having the disorder. You gain different themes in different areas of your life. OCD attacks your moral compass and makes you feel like a bad person.

  • MoonRiver

    337d

    I used to in the beginning of our relationship. The good news is I eventually stopped doing this, once I became more confident in our relationship (and myself) and we are now married.

  • MoonRiver

    337d

    I still have thoughts like this, occasionally… but I’ve come to a point where I am comfortable and accepting with the fact that there were people before me, and that’s ok and normal. Once I accepted these thoughts, the unpleasant intrusive thoughts eventually faded away.

  • NicN

    337d

    It’s called relationship OCD.

  • Venti

    337d

    I have obsessions related to relationship OCD on and off (in a relationship for almost 2 years now), and in those moments I just try to reinforce the relationship I have and prove to myself (as best as possible, of course) that my partner has no intentions of cheating because we've built a positive, trusting environment together.

  • NicN

    336d

    I get obsessed with the thought that my partner might not be the right person for me and it cripples me.

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