Feeling Unsupported by My Partner After Sharing Trauma

Those who have never experienced childhood trauma have a difficult time understanding what it's like, I think. And it is definitely not asking too much to have support from your significant other. That's what they are supposed to do. My wife keeps thanking me for doing everything that I do for her because she's never experienced someone that supported her.

Some people just aren't able to understand. People that haven't gone through anything... You have to find those that are able to understand and rely on them....

As already stated, you're not asking too much. Some reassurance is something we all need & deserve. I am sorry you've not received that. How to get that reassurance, I don't know. Blessings to you!

No it is not bad to want reassurance of from your partner. It is expected from a significant other. That is often the first source of acceptance. I understand how you felt, being ignored. It makes you not want to share anything else personal. ❤️to you.

I really hope you find some support. I realize how devastating not having your significant other believe you is. Have you tried an online therapist? Avibra had $1 benefits for awhile but they said no providers in my state, so it never worked for me.

I have an issue with people not believing me as well. It has been an ongoing trend in my life. People are also tired of hearing the same stuff about me, but my current situation has nothing to do with my childhood. People fail to realize that this isn't a plea for sympathy. I have been stuck in living situations with people under the influence and no matter how many meetings I go to, I can't get those in denial to want to change if they aren't ready. I can show them what they are missing out on to a certain extent but at a certain point if they get me cleaning up and cooking for them, I am just enabling them further. But what choice do I have, I need a roof over my head. I won't be dealing with substance abuse in my future. I won't be the right person to accompany people to meetings as I am as sober as it comes. They resent my soberness and seeming perfection being blind to the enormous problems I am shouldering silently and alone. I can be knowledgeable about resources and guide people towards solutions for identified problems but I am not a doctor or psychiatrist to diagnose. I am just a person who talks to other people and cares while pursuing my goals.