Dealing with Physical Pain from Reliving Anxious Moments

What kind of events are they(if you don't mind me asking) I had a similar experience with my body feeling like it got hit by a freight train after a couple deaths in my family. My therapist reminded me that sometimes when our mind feels like we're under attack, it assumes we got hurt somehow- it's essentially ghost pain. But for me, it only got better when I started to process my trauma and grief by sitting with their urns and "talking" to them