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Dating with Mental Illness: How to Help Your Partner Understand

ettoille

606d

started dating this new person and shes everything i couldve dreamed of. shes perfect to me. but im the first mentally ill + neurodivergent person she‘s ever been close with and seems to absorb my moods when i‘m in a low swing / feeling sad. i know its because she feels my swings are her fault, and i dont know how to help her see that its not and that its just how im wired. ive been in therapy for over a decade, ive grown so much, but i dont know how to be better for her or help her feel more affirmed that shes helpful versus harmful. anyone have any thoughts or words of encouragement? i just dont want her to feel badly.

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    • ettoille

      602d

      thank you for all of your thoughts!! it‘s helpful to get some affirmation with my feelings about this. shes not doing this in a malicious way at all, it’s definitely an empathetic response, but i very much appreciate getting a new perspective <3

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    • ettoille

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      thank you for all of your thoughts!! it‘s helpful to get some affirmation with my feelings about this. shes not doing this in a malicious way at all, it’s definitely an empathetic response, but i very much appreciate getting a new perspective <3

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    • AlyxRiley

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      It honestly could be they're empathetic and literally feel your emotions projecting. There's nothing wrong with it necessarily but they for sure need to work on themselves whether it be therapy, meditation etc to not project so hard I'm like this and I've worked on it in therapy it's valuable to know they can recognize and see your emotions but it's not YOUR responsibility to make them feel comfortable with their own issues it's theirs

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    • bouncyroo11

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      My last boyfriend literally told me that he doesn't cope well with me being sad and you know what I think that's messed up.. if they can't love you during your low they're not loving all of you. If she is offended by your low or if she feels like it's her fault, she's insecure. That's not a you problem. It's her problem. Don't let her gas light you and think it's your problem cuz it's not.

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      • bouncyroo11

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        @bouncyroo11 Just want to add that the right one will love you exactly who you are.

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    • alyssa25

      606d

      Does she accept you for who you are?!

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