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RAwarrior94

524d

does anyone have a family member with dementia? need some support. my dad has vascular dementia and just seems to be ..slowly dying right before my eyes. yesterday he introduced me to my brother.... it made me gulp and stomach sink because i knew he wasn't joking. the really sad part is that i am struggling so hard with this- ive had to be on more anxiety meds just to be around him. he fell the other day(not the first nor last time) on our sidewalk. bruised ribs and stitched up chin, but thank God that was all. still he weighs 127 with clothes on. we feed him- i swear. i feel helpless. he said to me, " i dont want to live like this, why do i have to, why can't i just die." broke my heart

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    • RAwarrior94

      492d

      @chuuchuu thank you, i will keep that in mind. my mom and i plan on going to a support group for caregivers( specifically dementia/memory loss)

    • chuuchuu

      496d

      I don't have family with dementia but I've worked with dementia patients and it really is hard, you're not having a "bad" response to feeling anxious, it's understandable. much easier said than done, but please try to create good memories with your dad, there are weird positives to dementia. he could go through the same family photo album with such excitement it's kind of lovely to see, take LOTS of photographs when doing fun events or going to fun places, it may jig his memory some or it may not but then you can tell him about that fun trip and he'll be excited over it my dms are open if you want to chat, but you're doing well ♡

      • RAwarrior94

        492d

        @chuuchuu thank you, i will keep that in mind. my mom and i plan on going to a support group for caregivers( specifically dementia/memory loss)

    • David1212

      519d

      Wow, this is really very sad. I can say that my grandfather used to deal with dementia until he passed away. I remember it was literally watching him disappear before my eyes. He did not remember me, his children or my grandmother. It is really very difficult. Unfortunately, there are not many ways to recover from the disease and you just have to understand that this is the situation and put up with it as much as possible.

      • RAwarrior94

        518d

        @David1212 yeah.. whole new level of anxiety and despair. it is the one time i would say I'd rather be dead. i mean slowly dying and forgetting anyone and everyone... i just don't.. sigh not even enough time to write all my thoughts. i know i shouldn't use the app for guidance but all the books, articles and studying I've done just makes me feel worse and i start to panic. im so sorry you had to watch him go through it. i lost my mommom 3/22/21 granddad 3/8/22 and my aunt last month so I'm pretty done with death. ive gone numb at times. like im losing ppl i care about left and right. 2 more family friends as well. so many haven't lost any and I'll admit im envious at times. 😥

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