Dealing with Relationship Anxiety

@Jaclynn note - this only works for the things I need repeated reassurance about, like my own recurring hangups about exes and infidelity - if something new happens, I feel justified in seeking new reassurances for the new situation. I don't feel the need to make him repeat himself if I believed him the first time - I can just write it down and remind myself! Or at least that's what I try and force myself to believe

@Jaclynn sometimes I use the "container" strategy from EMDR - I put the issue in a little mental box, so I can pull it out at a different time when I'm better suited to deal with it, like when I'm at home rather than at work...sometimes when he does give me reassurance I write it down, word for word. "I swear I don't ever think about my exes until you bring them up, they aren't important to me and haven't been for years" is one of my favorite ones. I can go back to that page in my notebook and read it again and don't have to go make him tell me the same thing again