Struggling to Get Through the Day

I completely understand. I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I have found writing things down, helps me tremendously. I make a list of what can I do🙂... not to do list 🤐 I use to make *to do lists* and found at the end of the day. I felt more strained, anxious & not very accomplished. So, decided to make a list of *what can I do*. I don't set it for a specific day or time either. Every Sunday. I try to make out a list for the week. If it's something like an appointment or a have to thing for home. I'll add an * by it. I hand write it out. Place it on the fridge. As I accomplish things. I check them off. This helps tremendously. Also, I try to meal prep. It makes my life so much easier all the way down to also prepping snack bags, jars, etc. I forget to eat too when I get distracted or when I have a flare up. Wanna know somethings kind of off the wall I added to my list. 1. *Breathe.... (because seriously sometimes, I just forget to inhale/exhale deeply. 2. *Smile.... because I've noticed I rarely smile. 3. *Eat....because as said. I forget at times. 4. *Go outside for 5 minutes. Those help me so much!! ❤️ I hope you can get some use out of these. 🤗

Routine always helps,but when I'm feeling really overwhelmed I start a Done List. On the list I write every little thing I accomplished so far including waking up, getting dressed, any form of self care, any general tasks, time with kids etc. It helps me out things in perspective regarding the time I have that day and reasonable expectations.

I find sticking to a routine and schedule helps me. I can easily get overwhelmed and I start getting into my own head or feeling negative. So setting aside time for me to relax and unwind or enjoy an activity for myself. And knowing what's on my plate or agenda for my day can help me prioritize. Even as simple as here's the things I must do, the things I'd like to get done, and low priority items. It helps me feel more in balance and like I'm not dropping the ball on the most important things. Sometimes I have to have patience and grace with myself.

I actually have the Finch app. My birdies name is Aloe and it does help. My struggle seems to be even when I have goals for the day I find it hard to get the motivation to do things/something gets in the way, even if it's for my benefit. I feel hungry, so I get up to make food, but now my son is crying because I stepped away. Here comes the mom guilt. Then I get to the kitchen and I see all the dishes piled up and I feel gross and down on myself because I "should be able to keep up on dishes since I'm home all day" and so I start a few. I go back to my son to cheer him up and I've forgotten the reason I've gotten up until later when I'm dizzy and don't know why I'm grumpy. I just long for the end of the day when my son is asleep, my boyfriend is at work, the cat is asleep and the house is silent. I feel so terrible that that seems like the only time I happy, then it gets taken away because I feel bad. I love being a mom, I love my boyfriend, and I am so so grateful that he works so hard so that I can be a stay at home mom but I also crave just being alone not having to think or do anything. So rambling aside, I just wish I knew some more coping skills so that I don't feel so much shame and am able to be the person mom/girlfriend I want to be

I have this app called Finch 😊 It's free, and there's several features there to help you improve your mental health. I think maybe you could specifically use these three features (with or without the app - but the app is really cute so I recommend it) 1) Make a visual checklist that you can actually write down and cross off. Maybe a chalk board where you can see it? Or a daily planner. Even an app on your phone works. Writing down your goals for the day in the morning and then crossing off a goal is like a boost of dopamine (personally) and gives visual aid to see that something productive is being done. 2) A timer. Obviously this doesn't have to be a thing, but if it doesn't give you anxiety or stress then I really recommend trying it. Finch gives you a six hour timer before your baby bird comes home from exploration every day (a bird you get to raise by answering it's questions every day - very cute). However, if you don't think youll be motivated by getting everything done in six hours, you can also set smaller timers for ten minutes (something my mom does - she finds it very helpful). Everyone has ten minutes to spare in the day. And, hey, if a timer doesn't work for you, you could stand to try multitasking. For example, cleaning the dishes before your eggs are done boiling. 3) Finch has a journaling area for you to write down your daily gratitude. The app isn't necessary to do this, but it is easy to use. I think you might benefit from a gratitude list because it might make you more excited about the day Hope this helped 🤗💕

I have an app called tappsk on my iPhone lol it’s wonderful and they have a free trial. but also group and individual therapy, antidepressants, other drugs on an as needed basis, books, research, marijuana, self-compassion and just trying to remember that ur worth does not come from what you do or don’t do 💕 every day I wake up w renewed hope and do my best. And drink lotsa water!! Eat ur vegs. We are called warriors for a reason!