I feel so worthless. I have zero friends. literally none. my husband loves that I don't have any. he loves that I'm only 39 and stay home 24/7 unless he's with me. he loves that all I do is play games on my phone or crochet. I'm at the point I'm never happy anymore. his friends and family all hate me and always have for no reason. I'm so frustrated.
I understand not having friends
Poor baby doll... I wish you were here to teach me and my daughter stuff. Hey you could do soo much with that too if your any good lol...
Volunteer, do classes and more. Even videos on you tube
It is hard when we want more balanced lives and our significant others are not supportive. Do you join any meetups? Even I have trouble getting to speak sometimes but it is nice to meet people online and maybe once you know someone well enough, they can be a friend you go out to do things with. Maybe come up with a plan and express how you need your spouse to be supportive and specifically what will do to help you. For example, I need someone to tell me to not brush my teeth too hard. My dentist told me I over brush causing receding gums.
Now u do have friends. We will be here anytime you need someone to talk to
That's a really crappy way to feel. That sucks. I don't mean to "solve" things, but I want to suggest that maybe you play games with online people and develop something with them. Games with profile pictures and chat functionality, you can strike up a conversation with. Most probably won't go beyond "hi, nice word play", but you might find someone to chat a little more with.
I'm so sorry you feel worthless. It concerns me that you feel isolated and unhappy, and say that your husband "loves" it. It sounds like you don't have many/any people in your life to lift you up, only your husband or people connected to him. Others have suggested ways of starting friendships, and it seems like this would be a good way to build up your self-esteem and get a fresh perspective. (I joined a book club through Meetup, and went to some gentle yoga classes at the LGBTQ community center.)
As people with chronic illnesses and mental health issues, we're especially prone to being isolated and vulnerable, and I've been there. It can be really hard to break out of that mindset of feeling worthless when you don't have people around who value you as you are. I hope you can find some of those people who will root for your happiness.
Should have added, feel free to edit these suggestions according to your physical and mental stamina. The book club is YA books, not dense classics I have to force myself to read; yoga I only went to when I felt up to it. I think starting online, as a lot of people have suggested, is a great first step. When you've been sick for so long I feel like it's hard to even remember what you like. Part of finding friends with common interests, will probably involve remembering and/or discovering what you're actually interested in, and what you have the capacity to do. Don't feel like you need to push yourself beyond your limits to keep up with others.
Thank you all so much!! 💕💕
If your husband loves that you have no friends, that's a huge red flag and you need to seriously reconsider your marriage
Please don't think you're worthless because you're not. You're husband is showing a huge red flag. How long have you been together. Has it always been like this. You poor thing. You have friends here, you're not alone x
we've been together 3 years married for 1 year. Yeah he's always been like this, but I suppose I didn't notice it as much early on.
Just reaching out here you took a huge step in making new friends! What others said about meetup is true. I started volunteering for a cat rescue and just foster 1 or kittens for them a d have made some very close friends that way. And, of course, I'll be happy to be your friend. :)
I know the feeling of having no friends. Our diseases isolate us. It’s hard to reach out when you have anxiety. But I’m here if you ever want to chat. I would love a friend ❤️
you deserve better, I hope that you go out and get it ❤️
Time for you to leave him it’s making you miserable and he likes it that isn’t love.
Sounds like he is part of the problem
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