I'm tired of being that one friend that everyone can go to with their problems.. I love helping them, but when I need the help, I don't get it. I'm strong. I don't want to be the strong one anymore. Where is my rock? I'm always there when my girlfriend needs it, but when I am in pain or depressed, I'm just looking for attention.. I just.. I just want someone to care the way I need them to.
Irritability and Anger
First off, I really suggest you try therapy. It has been really helpful in my own case. Not only will they be your rock, they can help you navigate this frustration you have towards loved ones (which is completely valid). Secondly, are your friends/family making you feel this way or is this something that you feel ab yourself? This can be a key difference in what you decide to do
I've been definitely thinking about it. I go to counseling but it doesn't seem to be working the way I need it to .. and both in a way. Mostly friends/family. I've always been like this and is my trauma I've experienced since childhood, taking on others problems and being the strong one. I couldn't let anything bother me. And now I'm burnt out without the same help in return
I understand that and I’m sorry to hear it. You deserve to be taken care of, even if it’s only by you. There’s a book called Boundaries by John Townsend, it really helped me learn how to deal with my own friends and family. It won’t fix everything, but it’s a great starting place to help you see how you can stop taking on everything and ask for what you need. There’s nothing wrong with setting up boundaries/going no contact with those who take advantage of you or aren’t reliable. Be selfish and take care of you over anyone else
I feel exactly the same way. There are people who I've been there for to help escape abusers, dangerous situations, and have even helped to find housing. But when I'm ,at times, unable to perform everyday tasks "you're not trying hard enough" or "I'm tired of having to help you". It especially sucks when, not only have I been helping them for 10-23+years, but their choices are the whole reason for my condition in the first place. Just keep knowing that you are VERY strong and VERY kind, and ABSOLUTELY deserving of people who are there for your needs too. It may be hard not to help, but pull back some of what you for those who don't return the same effort. Someday we'll find people who support up like we support them 🤗💕
definitely. I been trying to pull back but really it's not like anyone even comes to me with their problems for the most part anymore, I'm like outcasted in a way and then I feel like no one knows the true me because I'm constantly helping them with their problems that I am struggling internally cause they don't want to listen to mine. And I think that's one reason they've stop coming to me. Cause they don't want to hear my problems
that's awful! If you ever need to reach out you can always message me, I'm down to listen. I know you said you have a counselor, do you journal too? I don't do it every day and it doesn't make you feel any better, but it does help get some of the pain and hurt out when it gets too much
Lol sorry, nerve med fingers 😂
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