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I was just wondering about how you single folks manage day to day? I do ok and I am used to being alone. I have my daughter and I try really hard to think about and stay in the positive. With past trauma in my life I am one who struggles with the positive sometimes. I know no human can fix depression or the holes you feel. I live in a place where dating is so hard. The online apps are worthless. I’m not a bar scene guy. I just wish I knew at 43 how to do this. Because I feel like I deserve happiness and I fight for it everyday. I have hobbies I’ve gone into the community and do. It’s just like all the single women my age hide at home. And if they are online, they don’t give you a chance if you try. So it is very hard to see this as not being hopeless. When you have felt like this how did you handle it? I finally just gave up after over a year of trying. Life is just wicked lonely sometimes. And I wish I knew how to truly find what I feel I deserve. I work. I’m in school. I am trying to keep going and be who I need to be at my best. Meeting quality people anymore is so hard. It’s harder when you have a kid and as a parent your always evaluating the situation to see if the person is safe to bring into your life. I just really don’t want to do this 2nd half of my life alone. Life is hard enough … How do you in in this crazy ass game? Women have hundreds of dudes after them especially online. Many are scammers are bots. It’s like unless you look like Thor I’m sorry but your not going to get a message. I feel I’m attractive. A beard. Kinda on the bigger side but not horrid. Teddy bear mountain guy look. For guys like me who have done well in life so far despite so many trials it feels like all women care about is the superficial. Online that’s truly how it is. You have to pass the physical for them to consider the rest. Even if your a good catch. They won’t listen to you unless you hook them physically. Maybe I’m wrong but I finally just gave up. The online apps are money pits for many dudes. I look at Reddit blogs and stuff and I’m not the only guy who feels this way. Many women go on those with zero desire or plan to meet a good guy. They just want validation for who they are. I’ve done the church thing before that never worked. It just really is hard because I feel like to win you have to stay engaged and trying. Nothing in life is easy and good stuff must be fought for. But I feel like the last 2 years I’ve fought so hard that I am just exhausted with it all. You can’t win. And you know if one of them just gave you a shot you truly feel like it could go well. But your thrown into the bin of all of these other dudes. They want you to do this elaborate introduction thing to them. As a busy single guy I don’t have 10 hours a day to make these long song and dance elaborate unique introductions. And I just feel like expectations are so unrealistic than when I was younger. Any advice? Thanks
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