Stories
Privacy
Download
See Alike in...
Alike App
Browser
828d
is there any way of preventing the anger from coming up in the first place? or like, a way of reducing the intensity of the emotion, and its duration? so i don’t feel like the world is ending one sec and semi-okay the next 😭 thanks BPD fam 💓
3
4
Share
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
advertisement
this is immensely helpful guys! i’ve heard great things about DBT, and i can’t remember who posted a DBT workbook here but i just saw that i saved a link to it if y’all are also interested! i just ordered it 💓 The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness… https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MMQ95VG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_9X0F7XT1Z03ECKVFY1XG?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2
Sometimes for me, I’ll get triggered and immediately brush it off and act like everything is fine, but the triggered feeling stays. And whatever emotion that is, it comes right with me wherever I go. It’s usually what causes me to go from “0” to 100. In reality I was probably at like a 5 or 10 but it felt and looked like 0. Anyway, my point is I try to resolve my triggers asap. So if my boyfriend says something that rubs be the wrong way, instead of just telling myself to get over it I’ll tell him “I don’t like how you said that, it really irritates me” and I’ll even follow with something like “but I don’t know why”. Stating your feelings to the person who triggered you can actually help a LOT with processing the feeling. The thing with BPD and being aware is we tend to know when we are being irrational and we try to stuff it down and ignore it so we don’t react. For instance if my bf says “sure” and my first thought is “omg he just said sure he doesn’t even actually want to do x but he’s saying sure to get me to shut up etc etc” like we all know he probably did not mean it like that lol. But the unresolved emotion will often follow you even if it’s irrational. Recognize, state, and confront the emotion. Sorry this was so long, this is the best way I have found to “prevent” meltdowns. It’s not a perfect fix but it helps me a lot💕
0
dbt skills! try to use mindfulness & observe when you feel the anger coming on. use wise mind to decide if your emotion is appropriate for the situation, & if it is effective. visualization techniques work really well too. im not doing it justice by explaining like this lol but there are some very effective skills to learn. they’ve gotten me to come down from a LOT of rage
I personally haven't found any solutions, but when I find myself getting angry for no reason I try to give myself some alone time so I can relax. It usually takes around an hour on average for me to calm down but it does work. Then I'm able to have an actual conversation with my bf. I feel you, BPD is incredibly hard to deal with.
☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision
Want to chat or share? Download the Alike app now and get complete access to Alike.health's unique features.
Instantly get answers to medical questions with our AI, built from the collective wisdom of our community facing similar experiences
Write your question here...
Download Alike for the full experience
Copy Link
Copied
Discover your Alikeness™ with people who are on the same journey, gain wisdom and get emotional relief in a secure & anonymous space.
4.7 Ratings
Scan code or click below download the app
Bupropion
night sweats
paranoid
Valium
sertraline
palpitations
Anxiety (Including GAD)
Depression
Alike health
Instantly get answers to medical questions with our AI, built from the collective wisdom of our community facing similar experiences
Related Questions