Dealing with Relationship OCD

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I had this problem as well for a long time in my relationship. We are about to be together for 9 months and in the beginning I did the same thing. I felt like I needed to almost control everything he did even though he’s amazing and idk what I would do without him. One day I was a little too rude and we were having a rough day and I saw him cry. I never had before and this totally changed my perspective. I didn’t want to hurt him and my ocd reversed on me. Now I’m over paranoid about being me 😂 that’s my new obsession which is better I guess?

I’ve learned to ask my self, “is this rational? is this a rational deal breaker for my/our relationship?” when i have those kind of thought, as long as you have a healthy, non-toxic, relationship, he is good to you, try ti focus on the positive, i’ve had to just let things go, it’s not easy. Communicating in a gentle way can help too, with your partner. Just remember perfection is not possible and everyone will have quirks, weird things they do or say, but is this person worth it?