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kindkoala

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I hooked up with an ex (specifically the one my parents hate) and I think I'm pregnant I'm 19 and don't know what to do/say

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    • Tofu14

      452d

      @kindkoala I can see how that would worry you. I definitely agree with the person above. Take some tests. I will say that there was a time I went 4 months without a period before I got it again (no pregnancy) but I have irregular periods. If you are pregnant, make an appointment with a doctors to discuss all of your options and what care you might need going forward. Once you figure that out you can make a better decision about what you want to do. If you do want to talk to someone who will give your information about abortion as one of the options watch for predatory clinics. They brand themselves as being family planning clinics that offer that kind of service, but really they don’t offer them and try to guilt you into not having one. Regardless of what you want choices are in the table for you planned parenthood might be a good option because they can do free care without billing you (and your parents getting a bill in the mail hence finding out). That will give you a bit of time to get care while giving yourself enough time to be ready for telling your parents (if you do decide to do that). They won’t pressure you into getting an abortion if you don’t want one (95% of all the reproductive healthcare they do has nothing to do with that) but can make that happen for you if that is what you do want. (Their advocacy branch is also a separate organization from their advocacy side so they exist in their own bubbles). Anyways, I really hope that you are able to get some support through this. It sounds really challenging. Do you have a therapist you can talk this though with or a friend? You don’t deserve to go through this alone.

    • Ashcookie

      452d

      OMG girl the first thing you should do is take a pregnancy test. You have to confirm first that you are pregnant. Do you have a close family member you can talk to about this if you're scared to tell your parents?? Maybe like a cousin or even best friend works too. Don't be scared or afraid these things happen to people all the time you're not the only one. This could even happen to me and I'm 18 years old! I would suggest even talking to a doctor or someone professional if you don't want any family members to know. Remember it's your body your choice if you want to keep the baby or not. I'd also maybe tell your ex too because he has to know in case you are pregnant and want to keep it what you two will do. Message me if you need help you can even call me for advice I know this is a really scary time for you but you have support everywhere to help. 💕🙌💕🙏

    • AnimalBoy

      452d

      When did you hook up with him and when was your last period? It's best to take a pregnancy test 1 week after a missed period and/or 2 weeks after the suspected conception. I would take multiple tests and look into what options you have locally, you can also look into a nearby planned parenthood or similar clinic that can help you with testing, resources, and other things you might need to handle this situation. I don't know your specific situation but you might want to avoid saying anything to anyone who might react rashly or negatively until you're sure you actually are pregnant and have some idea about how you want to proceed with it.

      • kindkoala

        452d

        @AnimalBoy was the first of the year and I'm 3 weeks late for my period

        • Tofu14

          452d

          @kindkoala I can see how that would worry you. I definitely agree with the person above. Take some tests. I will say that there was a time I went 4 months without a period before I got it again (no pregnancy) but I have irregular periods. If you are pregnant, make an appointment with a doctors to discuss all of your options and what care you might need going forward. Once you figure that out you can make a better decision about what you want to do. If you do want to talk to someone who will give your information about abortion as one of the options watch for predatory clinics. They brand themselves as being family planning clinics that offer that kind of service, but really they don’t offer them and try to guilt you into not having one. Regardless of what you want choices are in the table for you planned parenthood might be a good option because they can do free care without billing you (and your parents getting a bill in the mail hence finding out). That will give you a bit of time to get care while giving yourself enough time to be ready for telling your parents (if you do decide to do that). They won’t pressure you into getting an abortion if you don’t want one (95% of all the reproductive healthcare they do has nothing to do with that) but can make that happen for you if that is what you do want. (Their advocacy branch is also a separate organization from their advocacy side so they exist in their own bubbles). Anyways, I really hope that you are able to get some support through this. It sounds really challenging. Do you have a therapist you can talk this though with or a friend? You don’t deserve to go through this alone.

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